What do you want to remember when you grow old?
It has been a while since I had written anything with sense. I hold no excuse for that. Not that my hobbies are senseless, it's just that I needed a break from thinking the way that I am used to. A paradigm shift, maybe or better yet, a metanoia.
These past few days, I had been battling with one of my greatest weakness - love. It holds true for everyone, I believe. How can a 4-letter word be so complicated.
I'd like this post to be interactive. So please, feel free to comment. I will do my best to reply.
What do you want to remember when you grow old?
So, I posted this on several sites. I only asked the question. The responses are very interesting. Different strokes for different folks. Makes you realize what matters most to these people who you think you already know.
The question is one thing, coming up with this question is another.
I am trying to understand the cultural differences of my boyfriend and me. Looking at the bigger picture, it may seem that there's a lot. From responsibilities to thoughts and ideas, we are different.
Earlier, he asked what I was doing. I said I was replying to Happy Birthday posts. He said that I could be doing something more than that. That conversation led us to talking about friends and how come I have a lot of them. Then it led him to ask me: How can you have so much time?
My boyfriend is Japanese. He was born and raised in Japan. His way of thinking is a little more liberal than most people from where he came from. Still, his main focus is work. I remember him telling me that he is working to have a good life in the future. I believe that the country's norm is focused on things to make you productive. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong.
I told him that, having time is a choice.
It was hard to explain, especially that he is not feeling well and had been itching to go to sleep. So I wrote him an email trying to explain how I can have much time. Here's what I told him:
Having time for other things is a choice
It's more than time management
Life is short
I have to balance life
I don't want to grow old
Asking myself, why did I never have time for anything else?
When I grow old,
I want to remember that I have loved
Love that one person that matters most to me
Love my family (Mom, Dad, Kei and Eri)
Love the things that I keep (my dolls)
Love the things that I enjoy (playing the guitar, sketching and writing poetry)
Love the people I met (my friends)
Love myself by loving what God had gave me
That the future is not just made of achievements from work
It's made by memories that you do now
I pray that he understands my context. I have chosen the words that he can understand.
I wrapped the email up, posting him this question: What do you want to remember when you grow old?
I wonder what he will reply.
I told him my answer:
Me...
Call it corny,
I want to remember that I am happy
To be in love.
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These past few days, I had been battling with one of my greatest weakness - love. It holds true for everyone, I believe. How can a 4-letter word be so complicated.
I'd like this post to be interactive. So please, feel free to comment. I will do my best to reply.
What do you want to remember when you grow old?
So, I posted this on several sites. I only asked the question. The responses are very interesting. Different strokes for different folks. Makes you realize what matters most to these people who you think you already know.
The question is one thing, coming up with this question is another.
I am trying to understand the cultural differences of my boyfriend and me. Looking at the bigger picture, it may seem that there's a lot. From responsibilities to thoughts and ideas, we are different.
Earlier, he asked what I was doing. I said I was replying to Happy Birthday posts. He said that I could be doing something more than that. That conversation led us to talking about friends and how come I have a lot of them. Then it led him to ask me: How can you have so much time?
My boyfriend is Japanese. He was born and raised in Japan. His way of thinking is a little more liberal than most people from where he came from. Still, his main focus is work. I remember him telling me that he is working to have a good life in the future. I believe that the country's norm is focused on things to make you productive. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong.
I told him that, having time is a choice.
It was hard to explain, especially that he is not feeling well and had been itching to go to sleep. So I wrote him an email trying to explain how I can have much time. Here's what I told him:
Having time for other things is a choice
It's more than time management
Life is short
I have to balance life
I don't want to grow old
Asking myself, why did I never have time for anything else?
When I grow old,
I want to remember that I have loved
Love that one person that matters most to me
Love my family (Mom, Dad, Kei and Eri)
Love the things that I keep (my dolls)
Love the things that I enjoy (playing the guitar, sketching and writing poetry)
Love the people I met (my friends)
Love myself by loving what God had gave me
That the future is not just made of achievements from work
It's made by memories that you do now
I pray that he understands my context. I have chosen the words that he can understand.
I wrapped the email up, posting him this question: What do you want to remember when you grow old?
I wonder what he will reply.
I told him my answer:
Me...
Call it corny,
I want to remember that I am happy
To be in love.
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