I love the idea of arguing with you being like a cork in water. Because that cork always wins. : )
I have a hard time being patient with people who don't get feminism or racism (and other isms) too. You've lived in the world, right? You're an adult? You can read, and you've listened to our cultural conversation on this issue even a little? How can you be so ignorant as to believe that's acceptable?
I'm not as angry about it, though. I tend to say something. But move on. But that's at work and in the world, where I feel more and more respected (and respectful, weirdly enough). Family members, it's just super frustrating. When we all meet up at my grandmother's house, I sit at what I've started to think of as the 'allies' table, and avoid the table where I will hear Trump supporters and racist comments about how lazy poor (meaning black) people are. And how everyone should stop complaining and get jobs.
That whole reputation in a family is hard to shake. Especially when it's not your family.
I remember when we were taking a corporate training seminar on wellness committees, they said executive support of a project came in different flavors - actively resistant, passively resistant, neutral, passively supportive, and actively supportive. And it sounds like Sven may be passively supporting you, but you'd really like his active support in this situation. Which, I don't know, maybe you can talk to him about.
I have a hard time being patient with people who don't get feminism or racism (and other isms) too. You've lived in the world, right? You're an adult? You can read, and you've listened to our cultural conversation on this issue even a little? How can you be so ignorant as to believe that's acceptable?
I'm not as angry about it, though. I tend to say something. But move on. But that's at work and in the world, where I feel more and more respected (and respectful, weirdly enough). Family members, it's just super frustrating. When we all meet up at my grandmother's house, I sit at what I've started to think of as the 'allies' table, and avoid the table where I will hear Trump supporters and racist comments about how lazy poor (meaning black) people are. And how everyone should stop complaining and get jobs.
That whole reputation in a family is hard to shake. Especially when it's not your family.
I remember when we were taking a corporate training seminar on wellness committees, they said executive support of a project came in different flavors - actively resistant, passively resistant, neutral, passively supportive, and actively supportive. And it sounds like Sven may be passively supporting you, but you'd really like his active support in this situation. Which, I don't know, maybe you can talk to him about.
I hope you feel less anxious, sweetie.
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