There is nothing specific that you did against me, though that is mostly because you and I don't really hang out together because of distance. if I'm lucky, I see you at a con.
So if I can't be specific, I'll be vague. I'm at work, so I can't form a concise post that is direct and to the point. You can either accept what I say, or ignore it.
I remember enjoying the time i spend with you. But I see frequently on your twitter feed a very negative attitude. It's only vague instances. You mention that you're not having any fun fursuiting, or not having fun at a con, or you hate the reg line, or the food sucks. Gee, does this guy like 'anything'? He must be a pain in the ass to be around.
I understand frustration at how dumb things can be sometimes. We've all been there. You need somewhere to vent, and sometimes twitter seems like the best place for that. But, it can harm other's people's view of you. Constant negative attitude will push people away, even close friends. Only the closest friends will become irritated by your behavior enough to call you on it and tell you to quit that shit. The rest will slowly fade from your view.
I've been there. I've long had a reputation of being a bitchybird, a grumpybird, a crankybird. There were a couple years that I got very little social interaction at all because I was pushing people away with my negative attitude.
How do you change it? It ain't easy. You need to balance the negative with the positive. I rarely see you say anything 'good' that happens. And there has to be some good sometimes. Negative comments are going to outweigh positive comments by a long shot, so you have to be very careful when you make your negativity public.
I'm no counselor. I still have to fight the bitchybird reputation because I'm still negative, but I really do try to see the good parts about my life around me. Life is not all bad. And quite a lot of the bad stems from my own choices. Those I can change. I don't have a right to bitch about my own choices except to call out my own behavior and admit my stupidity to everyone around me. That's acceptable, in that self-exposure will usually mean you have a desire to change that which you are bitching about.
There's also a lot of bad shit that goes on that I can't change. Society is full of that shit left and right. Just turn on the news and see all the bullshit going down in the world. I do my best to not let that get to me. It ain't easy. At the very least, you need to try to ignore all the crap you can't control. Doing nothing and accepting it is better than doing nothing and bitching about it. Feel free to 'do' something about it, but just bitching about it really does no one any good. So I choose to ignore that bullshit as much as I can.
Humor is important. If you just need to bitch about some bullshit going down, at least make it funny. Don't make it snarky. Comedians vent their frustrations at society all the time and they make it funny. You can do some of that, too.
TL;DR : Mellow out. Life is too short to rage against the wind every step of the way.
PS: Read 'How to Make Friends and Influence People'. It's an easy read, and it remains as true today as it did in the 1930s.
So if I can't be specific, I'll be vague. I'm at work, so I can't form a concise post that is direct and to the point. You can either accept what I say, or ignore it.
I remember enjoying the time i spend with you. But I see frequently on your twitter feed a very negative attitude. It's only vague instances. You mention that you're not having any fun fursuiting, or not having fun at a con, or you hate the reg line, or the food sucks. Gee, does this guy like 'anything'? He must be a pain in the ass to be around.
I understand frustration at how dumb things can be sometimes. We've all been there. You need somewhere to vent, and sometimes twitter seems like the best place for that. But, it can harm other's people's view of you. Constant negative attitude will push people away, even close friends. Only the closest friends will become irritated by your behavior enough to call you on it and tell you to quit that shit. The rest will slowly fade from your view.
I've been there. I've long had a reputation of being a bitchybird, a grumpybird, a crankybird. There were a couple years that I got very little social interaction at all because I was pushing people away with my negative attitude.
How do you change it? It ain't easy. You need to balance the negative with the positive. I rarely see you say anything 'good' that happens. And there has to be some good sometimes. Negative comments are going to outweigh positive comments by a long shot, so you have to be very careful when you make your negativity public.
I'm no counselor. I still have to fight the bitchybird reputation because I'm still negative, but I really do try to see the good parts about my life around me. Life is not all bad. And quite a lot of the bad stems from my own choices. Those I can change. I don't have a right to bitch about my own choices except to call out my own behavior and admit my stupidity to everyone around me. That's acceptable, in that self-exposure will usually mean you have a desire to change that which you are bitching about.
There's also a lot of bad shit that goes on that I can't change. Society is full of that shit left and right. Just turn on the news and see all the bullshit going down in the world. I do my best to not let that get to me. It ain't easy. At the very least, you need to try to ignore all the crap you can't control. Doing nothing and accepting it is better than doing nothing and bitching about it. Feel free to 'do' something about it, but just bitching about it really does no one any good. So I choose to ignore that bullshit as much as I can.
Humor is important. If you just need to bitch about some bullshit going down, at least make it funny. Don't make it snarky. Comedians vent their frustrations at society all the time and they make it funny. You can do some of that, too.
TL;DR : Mellow out. Life is too short to rage against the wind every step of the way.
PS: Read 'How to Make Friends and Influence People'. It's an easy read, and it remains as true today as it did in the 1930s.
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