A funny thing called love...
The biggest problem with love, as far as my experience goes, is that you'll never know if it is real. If it is real, or total, or all encompassing, from either party's stand point. You don't know if the love you receive is real, you'll never know. You will never know its extent, its boundaries, its durations, its limitations. You'll never know if the love you give is real either. You won't know because you could just be creating that love in your mind, because that is all love is. You can know you love someone, you will know if you do, but you can't ever be sure why, or for how long, or with what intensity. There will always be a underlying feeling of self doubt on all those aspects of love. Even when you know, you can't be sure if the feelings are uncontrollable or if they're constructed by some subconscious need, or want.
The biggest positive with love, as far as my experience goes, is that you don't have to know if it is real. If you really love someone, you can make is seem real, or total, or all encompassing. If you feel that it is real, you can disregard the extent, the boundaries, the duration, the limitations, until they become unavoidable. With love, the time is now. With love, the future is assumed bright. If love is out of your hands, and afforded us by some uncontrollable subconscious desires, who really cares. Love is a feeling, and feelings are as real as anything else in your mind. Everything is relative, and love is relative to the irrelevant. It can be unfounded, unsupported, unrequited, and down right unsafe, but all the un's are meaningless. If it is real in your mind and you feel it is real in the mind of those you love, or even if you don't, that is enough. Love is abstract, and that makes it real to the one who loves.
So love is hard, and love is great. Love can make you change, or it can make you fight to make things stay the same. I won't say "All you need is love", not to survive at least. I won't say that it is all you need to feel whole either. You can survive without it, and you can have it and never feel whole. Let's just say that your chances of being happy increase with it. It won't save you from dying in a plane crash or from cancer, not literally at least. You'll never know if it's out of your hands or not, but you won't have to know.
How do I love thee? That is simple. You love as best you can. Nothing less or more.
The biggest positive with love, as far as my experience goes, is that you don't have to know if it is real. If you really love someone, you can make is seem real, or total, or all encompassing. If you feel that it is real, you can disregard the extent, the boundaries, the duration, the limitations, until they become unavoidable. With love, the time is now. With love, the future is assumed bright. If love is out of your hands, and afforded us by some uncontrollable subconscious desires, who really cares. Love is a feeling, and feelings are as real as anything else in your mind. Everything is relative, and love is relative to the irrelevant. It can be unfounded, unsupported, unrequited, and down right unsafe, but all the un's are meaningless. If it is real in your mind and you feel it is real in the mind of those you love, or even if you don't, that is enough. Love is abstract, and that makes it real to the one who loves.
So love is hard, and love is great. Love can make you change, or it can make you fight to make things stay the same. I won't say "All you need is love", not to survive at least. I won't say that it is all you need to feel whole either. You can survive without it, and you can have it and never feel whole. Let's just say that your chances of being happy increase with it. It won't save you from dying in a plane crash or from cancer, not literally at least. You'll never know if it's out of your hands or not, but you won't have to know.
How do I love thee? That is simple. You love as best you can. Nothing less or more.