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Oct 24, 2008 16:10

... I really have lost the knack of this, haven't I.

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nonesodangerous October 25 2008, 00:42:24 UTC
Doctor?

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timey_wimey October 26 2008, 10:25:39 UTC
Hi, Tieria.

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nonesodangerous October 26 2008, 12:56:07 UTC
What is it you seem to have "lost the knack" of?

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timey_wimey October 26 2008, 13:03:15 UTC
This whole thing about being a dad. Not something I'd expect you to get, really.

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nonesodangerous October 26 2008, 16:07:50 UTC
What do you mean by that?

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timey_wimey October 26 2008, 16:28:18 UTC
What, you're not about to tell me that you have kids, are you?

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nonesodangerous October 26 2008, 16:29:49 UTC
Of course not. It simply seemed like you were implying...

...hn. Nevermind.

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timey_wimey October 26 2008, 16:43:11 UTC
Moving on from what I might or might not have been implying, which while we're here is a complete mystery to me, by the way, I seem to have completely lost what parenting skills I ever had. Which wasn't much to start with, to be honest.

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nonesodangerous October 26 2008, 20:59:54 UTC
What I thought you were implying really isn't important.

I don't see how someone can just lose certain skills.

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timey_wimey October 26 2008, 21:58:53 UTC
Lack of practice, mostly. Dealing with people and relationships isn't like riding a bike, you know.

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nonesodangerous October 26 2008, 23:35:49 UTC
...how so?

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timey_wimey October 27 2008, 11:40:20 UTC
Oh come on, you must have heard that saying, right? Riding a bike's something you never forget? It's a whole different thing where people are concerned. Stop dealing with people for too long and you forget how to do it, and it doesn't help when being a parent is hugely different from being a friend. And between you and me, I haven't been a full-time dad for - oh, must have been at least 700 years.

The point is, being a parent... you're supposed to be able to keep your kids happy and be there for them. I seem to have forgotten how to do that.

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nonesodangerous October 27 2008, 13:05:36 UTC
I understand that once one learns a skill, it is not easily forgotten, compared to information. But interpersonal relations are just a combination of observations and skills. One makes an observation of the situation, and then selects the correct reaction. It is not actively thought about, at least not normally, but that is still what is occurring. I cannot see how one can forget how to interact with people.

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timey_wimey October 29 2008, 15:33:38 UTC
Go away, be a hermit for a few decades, then come back and tell me if you still think the same way.

All joking aside, though, and you're not gonna like this, it's all very well saying that, but you're forgetting the most important part of interacting with people, and that's emotions. Your own as well as the other person's. Sometimes they can get in the way.

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nonesodangerous October 30 2008, 00:29:04 UTC
I don't have a few decades to waste, Doctor.

Then perhaps you need to re-evaluate the situation and find out just what the problem is. It seems to me that the problem isn't that you have forgotten how to interact, but rather, you seem to be unable to control your emotions sufficiently. You should be able to see how much of a difference that makes.

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timey_wimey October 30 2008, 09:40:32 UTC
I didn't think so, somehow.

Look, I don't know about you, but it's not as if my emotions are on a switch that I can just flick on and off at will.

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