feeling sad becasu eof something i did yesterday but i gave kim fglowers so yay
well. I did it, i wrote Mr. Roy the email i have been gripping about. here is a copy if you want to read it, if not then scroll down
> Hello Mr. Roy,
> I am sending this email to say a few things and though I am very sorry
> and a little upset that I am not saying them to your face I don't know if
> I would be able to say them if I tried. First of all I would like to
> apologize for not coming to class today. It was the first and only one I
> have missed all year. I chose not to go, there was no other reason besides
> the oppertunity to work on my final paper which I am taking the
> oppertunity to do. I am sorry to say that I will not be returning to
> Karate class next year. Though I love Karate and will always continue to
> practice it I feel as though my needs are not being met in your class.
> Before you think anything let me say that I am not trying to require
> private lessons or 100% attention but the problem (and I hate to be so
> blunt) resides with your style of teaching, and a little bit with you
> yourself. I have been doing Karate everyterm since my freshmen year. A
> total of six terms including this one. But as I have stayed more and more,
> I have noticed different things about your teaching style and personality
> that seem to have devoloped durning the course of the year. This year was
> when things really started to hit me. You are a very nice person and I am
> sure that if I got to know you outside of class you would b a wonderful
> friend/mentor, but as of now can no longer deal with your belittle
> personality. Karate is no longer fun, it seems as though you care so much
> more with whether or not we participate in tests and activities (whether
> outr scheduals allow it or not) rather then if we are actually learnign
> the material and having fun. You speak so much of the acient times when it
> was alll about learning to fight and be the best and yadda yadda yadda but
> this is o longer ancient times and people want to do Karate now a days to
> have fun. I started Karate to learn to defend myself but as I have
> continued to study over these past 11 years I have begun to change and
> progress on a more emotion all and spiritual level. You talk about enhance
> yourself mentally and how that is the real key to martial arts, but I see
> no evidenve of you actually helping us on our way. You show us things and
> explain them but don't take time to really help us. I understand that
> there is almost know time in the terms but I also know that it is possible
> to help people without hurting them at the same time. Many a time when you
> correct you just say something is wrong but don't explain why. You expect
> us just to except this and not say anything but if that is the case then
> half the time many of your sudents do not have a clue what6 you are talign
> about. So we don't talk back to you out of matter of respect towards you,
> but what about your respect towards us. I asked you if I could practice my
> kempo one day last term when we were having a day of free practice. You
> allowed me to but insisted on watching. As soon as I began you began to
> critise me, telling me that dancer could do the same thing. I would just
> like ot say that that was a rude and very unhelpful comment. Not only was
> hipocritical after all you have said about different styles of teaching
> and so forth, it was also ignorant to try and correct something you know
> nothing about. It shows a level of foolishness that I can't comprehend. I
> don't mean to insult but it is true. You may be reading this and getting
> angry or thinking about how foolish or igorant I am, but while you do I
> would just like to say that I am not leaving this class becasue of my lack
> of understanding the martial arts, I am leaving it becasue of your own
> lack of understanding for both your art and your students. You may also be
> thinking that I have given up and to that I would like to laugh at. I
> will never give up on Karate. I love it and it is part of my life. I will
> continue to practice and maybe sometime in the future I wil find another
> instuctor. I don't beleive I have let myself down in discontinuing
> learnign from you but I do beleive that you have failed as a teacher, at
> least to me. If you are wondering why I never told you this in person it
> is because I could never get a word in. Whenever I wopuld go to tell you a
> complaint or disagree with you you would cut me off,in fact I almost
> beleive that you will get halfway through this email and throw it out.
> Well that would prove my point now wouldn't it. I would be most grateful
> if you would reply to this though I am not certain I will reply back. this
> will most likel;y be the last you here of me so I would like to say good
> bye. You were memorable.
>
> -Mark Haberland
well i sent it yesterday. I had skiped Karate to work on my paper. It's all amanda and sams fault. hehe jk it was my choice, but of course kit told Mr. Roy that i didn't want to be there and he and amy said that MR. Roy almost cried. i met them on the bus you see when they were going back to northfeild. but hearing that made me really sad. thanx alot kit. so he replied. once again u can scroll down if you want
Mark,
First of all, thank you for your frankness - I apologize for all the wrongs I
have done to you - I really didn't realize we were on such bad terms - I truly do
wish our relationship was such that we could have worked this out - I'm sorry that
you felt that you could not talk to me about your feelings.
I wish you well with your pursuits in life and I hope that you can continue
Martial Arts instruction with someone that you can learn from.
Richard Roy
so i read that just a few minutes ago aND damn near cried. i felt like fucking shit. really there were problems but maybe i was exaggerating. I just don't know. any way i responded with thios becasue there was no way i could let that reply be out last words.
Mr. Roy,
Thank you very much for replying to to my email, though it made me a little sad. Please don't ever think that you have done me any wrongs. I have learned to never regret anything in live and i certainly don't froget this class. I truly learned alot from you. We were never on bad terms I just need a change i suppose. I hope that we can continue to remeain friends and that maybe someday will see each other again.
goodbye for now
-Mark
so i feel a little bit better now. hopefully this will cheer him up just a tad. wa this the right thing top do? i just don't know.
> Hello Mr. Roy,
> I am sending this email to say a few things and though I am very sorry
> and a little upset that I am not saying them to your face I don't know if
> I would be able to say them if I tried. First of all I would like to
> apologize for not coming to class today. It was the first and only one I
> have missed all year. I chose not to go, there was no other reason besides
> the oppertunity to work on my final paper which I am taking the
> oppertunity to do. I am sorry to say that I will not be returning to
> Karate class next year. Though I love Karate and will always continue to
> practice it I feel as though my needs are not being met in your class.
> Before you think anything let me say that I am not trying to require
> private lessons or 100% attention but the problem (and I hate to be so
> blunt) resides with your style of teaching, and a little bit with you
> yourself. I have been doing Karate everyterm since my freshmen year. A
> total of six terms including this one. But as I have stayed more and more,
> I have noticed different things about your teaching style and personality
> that seem to have devoloped durning the course of the year. This year was
> when things really started to hit me. You are a very nice person and I am
> sure that if I got to know you outside of class you would b a wonderful
> friend/mentor, but as of now can no longer deal with your belittle
> personality. Karate is no longer fun, it seems as though you care so much
> more with whether or not we participate in tests and activities (whether
> outr scheduals allow it or not) rather then if we are actually learnign
> the material and having fun. You speak so much of the acient times when it
> was alll about learning to fight and be the best and yadda yadda yadda but
> this is o longer ancient times and people want to do Karate now a days to
> have fun. I started Karate to learn to defend myself but as I have
> continued to study over these past 11 years I have begun to change and
> progress on a more emotion all and spiritual level. You talk about enhance
> yourself mentally and how that is the real key to martial arts, but I see
> no evidenve of you actually helping us on our way. You show us things and
> explain them but don't take time to really help us. I understand that
> there is almost know time in the terms but I also know that it is possible
> to help people without hurting them at the same time. Many a time when you
> correct you just say something is wrong but don't explain why. You expect
> us just to except this and not say anything but if that is the case then
> half the time many of your sudents do not have a clue what6 you are talign
> about. So we don't talk back to you out of matter of respect towards you,
> but what about your respect towards us. I asked you if I could practice my
> kempo one day last term when we were having a day of free practice. You
> allowed me to but insisted on watching. As soon as I began you began to
> critise me, telling me that dancer could do the same thing. I would just
> like ot say that that was a rude and very unhelpful comment. Not only was
> hipocritical after all you have said about different styles of teaching
> and so forth, it was also ignorant to try and correct something you know
> nothing about. It shows a level of foolishness that I can't comprehend. I
> don't mean to insult but it is true. You may be reading this and getting
> angry or thinking about how foolish or igorant I am, but while you do I
> would just like to say that I am not leaving this class becasue of my lack
> of understanding the martial arts, I am leaving it becasue of your own
> lack of understanding for both your art and your students. You may also be
> thinking that I have given up and to that I would like to laugh at. I
> will never give up on Karate. I love it and it is part of my life. I will
> continue to practice and maybe sometime in the future I wil find another
> instuctor. I don't beleive I have let myself down in discontinuing
> learnign from you but I do beleive that you have failed as a teacher, at
> least to me. If you are wondering why I never told you this in person it
> is because I could never get a word in. Whenever I wopuld go to tell you a
> complaint or disagree with you you would cut me off,in fact I almost
> beleive that you will get halfway through this email and throw it out.
> Well that would prove my point now wouldn't it. I would be most grateful
> if you would reply to this though I am not certain I will reply back. this
> will most likel;y be the last you here of me so I would like to say good
> bye. You were memorable.
>
> -Mark Haberland
well i sent it yesterday. I had skiped Karate to work on my paper. It's all amanda and sams fault. hehe jk it was my choice, but of course kit told Mr. Roy that i didn't want to be there and he and amy said that MR. Roy almost cried. i met them on the bus you see when they were going back to northfeild. but hearing that made me really sad. thanx alot kit. so he replied. once again u can scroll down if you want
Mark,
First of all, thank you for your frankness - I apologize for all the wrongs I
have done to you - I really didn't realize we were on such bad terms - I truly do
wish our relationship was such that we could have worked this out - I'm sorry that
you felt that you could not talk to me about your feelings.
I wish you well with your pursuits in life and I hope that you can continue
Martial Arts instruction with someone that you can learn from.
Richard Roy
so i read that just a few minutes ago aND damn near cried. i felt like fucking shit. really there were problems but maybe i was exaggerating. I just don't know. any way i responded with thios becasue there was no way i could let that reply be out last words.
Mr. Roy,
Thank you very much for replying to to my email, though it made me a little sad. Please don't ever think that you have done me any wrongs. I have learned to never regret anything in live and i certainly don't froget this class. I truly learned alot from you. We were never on bad terms I just need a change i suppose. I hope that we can continue to remeain friends and that maybe someday will see each other again.
goodbye for now
-Mark
so i feel a little bit better now. hopefully this will cheer him up just a tad. wa this the right thing top do? i just don't know.