Comments | tigerlofu: I can't really condone what I am doing

tigerlofu

I can't really condone what I am doing

Jan 17, 2011 10:43

For as long as I can remember I have had issues with my weight, I think I was 7 or so the first time I decided I was overweight and needed to loose some. While I have a supportive family, they do agree with me that I weigh more than I should (when I talk to them now about this, not when I was 7).
( Because if all of these pretty skinny people thought they were fat, what would they think of me? )

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mabaliciousness January 18 2011, 04:14:20 UTC

Honestly, I don't think there's anyone out there who's 100% confident about their body. We all have parts of our appearance that we hate at times, things that we'd never criticize or even notice in others.

For what it's worth though, I consider you both one of the cool kids and one of the hottest people I know. <3

relique January 18 2011, 04:43:01 UTC

You should love yourself, take care of yourself, and not beat yourself up about the things you can't control, or maybe could control but haven't yet. And that should be constant, no matter what your weight is.

But that doesn't mean you can't have a *preference*.

The difficult part is the struggle between keeping the preference a preference, and not an obsession or a self esteem drain. I'd prefer to have green eyes, and naturally curly red hair. I don't feel bad that I wasn't born that way. Sometimes I do things that change my body go get a bit closer to there, an I enjoy it, but I'm also happy to have brown hair and brown eyes.

Our culture makes weight MUCH harder to approach in the same way. But you're not bad for having a preference, as long as you work to keep it in perspective.

*hugs*

animangel January 18 2011, 06:35:48 UTC

I think there's a big difference between hating one's body image and being aware of when something isn't right/is unhealthy.

Personally, I don't think that working out is a bad thing. It sounds like you associate it with only wanting to be thin because of maintstream media etc but I think there's probably something there. You probably know unconciously where your healthy range is, and want to be in that range.

As for the thyroid fail : it's actually very common among women. So common that it is an invalid reason to deny health insurance. (My mum was also diagnosed this year - so I have an idea of what you're going through).

So now that you know WHY you were heavy and you have decided to change your look now that you feel you can - I don't see that as being hypocritical or wrong so long as you are doing it because YOU want to.

Anyways, that's my two cents.