I'm so married...and yet so alone

[ticklemychicken]

Ok, I'm not REALLY alone - I have my hubby and my 2 kitties. However, I teach 40+ hours a week. I say 40+ because legally I'm supposed to have 1 hour of prep time every day, as required by the state of WI Department of Public Instruction, but due to the fact that I teach K-12 and have 10 minutes here, 10 minutes there, I'm not actually getting my

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[anonymous]

I didn't want to say anything because I didn't think I'd have to justify who I did and didn't invite to my wedding. And I really don't think I should have to justify myself. But...my mother-in-law who has recently gotten divorced to my husband's dad and remarried another man decided that she was going to invite her new husband's whole family to the wedding (60 people), none of whom we really know, and she also has a big family, so her guests alone were more than my parents', mine and Matt's, and Matt's dads guests - combined. Yet, she wasn't willing to foot the bill to pay for these guests. We stood up to her, we did what we could, but in the end, it just wasn't worth it for us to lose her in our lives (other than things surrounding the wedding because of her seeing her ex husband, she really is a lovely woman). So Matt and I had to substantially cut down our list of people to invite. After much crying and heartache, the guest list was "narrowed down" to 300+ people (we have big familes and lots of "joint" friends from college and couldn't afford to invite more because of the money issue and also because of the space issue).

So I'm sorry if you're angry at me for not inviting you to my wedding, but that's the way it went. There was a lot of bargaining and negotiating, but in the end, since Matt and I weren't paying for more than 10% of the whole thing, we lost out. If we would have waited a year, we could have done the whole thing ourselves, but, again, that's the way it went.

This entry had nothing to do with you. If you're still bitter at me for not attending your wedding, I'm also sorry about that, but I had plans that were already set for that day that couldn't be broken.

And all of the books say that just because people invite you to their wedding doesn't mean you have to invite them to yours. If you are hurt by this, I am truly sorry. But there were many factors with which I was contending, and, in the end, I didn't get to invite everyone I wanted to invite.