Meme: Seven quirks/facts/truths about me
This meme has been bickering for my attention, shinysparks openly invited me to it.. She and many others, like hulamoth , unsentimentalf , eyrial and ladylovelace did this properly. Since my LJ is mostly a fangirlish Richard Armitage/Guy of Gisborne blog, I don’t know how relevant it will be with seven particular quirks. Most people in my RL think my tendency for fandom is my greatest quirk, for instance. They don’t know what they’re missing out on. ;-)
So maybe it’s more to the point to reveal a little about me in RL.
1. Few people in my RL know how deeply I feel about the RH fandom. I don’t mind telling, I just mind not being understood. I’m bored with explanations about this, it’s a waste of time. It feels like I’m supposed to excuse myself, which is uncalled for. I used to be a part of a Jane Austen fandom and arranged a few meetings for online Austen-fans between 2000-2002. I’d like to do that in this fandom too. Let me know I there’s any interest. :-)
2. I have a blog in my native tongue, I post there about every other day. I started blogging as a way of getting experienced in the matter, since I part-time teach IT for seniors.
I soon realised that the blog was a good chance to show a bit more sides to myself, my interests etc. People usually want me to fit into their universe and they tend to be a bit upset when they realise that their impression of me is party false and the things that matter to them aren’t the things that absorb me and my mind.
3. I live alone since 2003 and I like it. I’ve lived in two serious relationships, the latest during nine years. No children and that’s fine. I enjoy ruling over my own free time, even if my dream was to have a large family in a country house with lots of animals.
Being a RA fangirl may be having unrealistic expectations in men, since RA definitely is one of a kind. But on the other hand, being a RA fangirl saves me from falling into a trap of at least “give a random man a try” just because I’ll get a bit lonely now and then, and because friends urge me to try it. For me, falling in love is a long process and there is no one in my life that interests me in that way at the moment. If that would change, I’d be both interested and enthusiastic. But I have a good life on my own. So Richard... if you’re ever in the neighbourhood. ;-)
4. Fact is, I already have a large family. My fertile parents were married more than once and I have a bunch of half-brothers and half-sisters. I was the last little kid and my eldest brothers had children already - I’m a born aunt and I was a grand-aunt at the age of 18.
This is in no way normal for my social setting, unless you don’t count my family as some sort of forerunners of complicated family situations. For instance: the Robin/ Guy/ Isabella/ Archer sibling situation was no hard equation to me. That was normalcy. My half-sister’s half-sister’s half-sister, for instance... Let’s move on.
This have affected me: there is always a dream of a big, happy family where everyone love each other and get along. And it never works in real life. I was very hesitant of having children in a relationship that I didn’t fully expect to work out, seeing the complications it led to. Perhaps I was too careful, that is often the case with me. But I’m a seriously cool aunt, I am. ;-)
5. Even though I dislike explanations about myself, I love explaining other things. I like giving service and I like to teach. Good thing it’s my work. ;-) Bad thing I feel the need to move on. I’ve been uprooted a few times since I grew up: my parents died early within 18 months, I hadn’t turned 20. I’ve had to become independent and try my own way.
Choosing a classical education wasn’t the most practical solution. This means I’ve done a lot of other things instead, but sort of kept the fire burning inside me. It certainly hasn’t made me rich in possessions and financial security, if you don’t count having to pick apart my family home after my parents deaths and using the small funds for said classical education.
But I don’t worry too much. Things have worked out, despite hard and sad times. We are all more resourceful than we know. Having to try our way in the world gives great experiences and knowledge, I wouldn’t want to be without that. And I’ll gladly extend my hand to a fellow kindred spirit who need to ease their burden. I’m a warm person and affectionate to those I like.
I do tend to be quite an observer and listener, instead of telling too much about myself. I like to dwell on things in private, make a change and tell everyone when all is arranged. This, I have learnt, startles people. “You never said a word!” they say. Well, you never asked, did you? ;-)
6. I do feel like I’m ready for a change. I think about it a lot. I may be thinking too much, but not forever.
7. I like to take my time with my fics; read, re-read, edit and nitpick my own work. It’s the Virgo in me.
Despite my experience of love not being overly romantic in real life and the fact that a (formally) young woman who lacks parents isn’t automatically living in a romance novel, my fic-brain is 100% romantic. I’ll gladly dip into historical accuracy and try to write realistically on persons and situations - as long as there are romantic interludes, lots of good sex and a guaranteed happy ending. Escapism is always relevant. ;-)
I really don’t want anyone to feel forced, but I’d love to read a few things about those of you who are on my f-list. I’v realised that it’s been growing quit a lot to include a lovely gang of people! :-) Do share!