It seems like you are rather emotionally tied to your desire to be understood and to understand others. This is a complex issue that ought to be broken down into its separate parts. As I don't have the time to do that, I'll just be "lazy" and lump them together. If one uses specific events and experiences to be understood and to understand others, then one must remain objective in the analysis of such events/experiences. Hence, if rational objectivity is lost then this can likely cause changing results depending upon the mood. Which in turn causes the continual desire to reanalyze the data as the expectation is that the result will change; naturally this also causes self doubt that further increases the emotional desire to reanalyze. It’s a nasty little cycle.
One approach is to practice analyzing the events of others that holds no emotional attachment to you. This would then make it easier to objectively analyze their situations and figure out what desires drive them, what motives they had and what their personalities were like leading up to the event and at the time of the event. Relatively simple once you figure out what are their primary desires.
Once such objectivity is achieved, then it can be applied to those events/experiences that hold emotional ties. Thus, you will be able to break the cycle of reanalysis due to emotional fluctuation. So the only time you reanalyze such events/experiences is when new information comes to light that was not originally taken into account. The better the analysis the less likely a change and new information will only add more depth, but not cause a need to reanalyze the data.
As people's desires, motives and personalities shape and are shaped by events/experiences and once enough data about a person is acquired it is easy to slip into a person's shoes and see what they see. Thus, you will be able to tailor you speech, actions and overall behavior to be more easily understood by the person, because you understand their desires, motives and personality.
But like I said, I'm rather busy, so that's the "lazy" man's approach to fixing too much over analyzing.
It's fine with me you dislike what I write, it doesn't make it incorrect. You state the problem and that you work to improve everyday, but you do not state how you plan on resolving the problem and with no plan the issue will not be resolved in a timely fashion if at all. You know the place to begin improving your environment is by improving yourself. So post how you plan to do it and then do it.
Hahaha, and yet it seems the be the most anyone has written... or have you noticed the irony yet?
I was pointing out that you assume that people have the time to sit down and help others to deal with their problems. Some people do, others don't, that was my point. To call people lazy who do have the time to do so and yet they don't, would be be accurate only if they cared about the subject being discussed. If they don't care about it, then they are not going to bother spending the time on the subject which does not make them lazy rather it makes them uninterested. If they don't have the time, then they are not lazy either and from an outside perspective whether or not they care is moot as the result is the same.
Hence, with such a generalization being used, I figured it only appropriate to answer in kind. As answering general statements with specific doesn't work as they are on differing levels.
It seems like you are rather emotionally tied to your desire to be understood and to understand others. This is a complex issue that ought to be broken down into its separate parts. As I don't have the time to do that, I'll just be "lazy" and lump them together. If one uses specific events and experiences to be understood and to understand others, then one must remain objective in the analysis of such events/experiences. Hence, if rational objectivity is lost then this can likely cause changing results depending upon the mood. Which in turn causes the continual desire to reanalyze the data as the expectation is that the result will change; naturally this also causes self doubt that further increases the emotional desire to reanalyze. It’s a nasty little cycle.
One approach is to practice analyzing the events of others that holds no emotional attachment to you. This would then make it easier to objectively analyze their situations and figure out what desires drive them, what motives they had and what their personalities were like leading up to the event and at the time of the event. Relatively simple once you figure out what are their primary desires.
Once such objectivity is achieved, then it can be applied to those events/experiences that hold emotional ties. Thus, you will be able to break the cycle of reanalysis due to emotional fluctuation. So the only time you reanalyze such events/experiences is when new information comes to light that was not originally taken into account. The better the analysis the less likely a change and new information will only add more depth, but not cause a need to reanalyze the data.
As people's desires, motives and personalities shape and are shaped by events/experiences and once enough data about a person is acquired it is easy to slip into a person's shoes and see what they see. Thus, you will be able to tailor you speech, actions and overall behavior to be more easily understood by the person, because you understand their desires, motives and personality.
But like I said, I'm rather busy, so that's the "lazy" man's approach to fixing too much over analyzing.
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that's exactly what I dislike, and the post was about. Sheesh.
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I was pointing out that you assume that people have the time to sit down and help others to deal with their problems. Some people do, others don't, that was my point. To call people lazy who do have the time to do so and yet they don't, would be be accurate only if they cared about the subject being discussed. If they don't care about it, then they are not going to bother spending the time on the subject which does not make them lazy rather it makes them uninterested. If they don't have the time, then they are not lazy either and from an outside perspective whether or not they care is moot as the result is the same.
Hence, with such a generalization being used, I figured it only appropriate to answer in kind. As answering general statements with specific doesn't work as they are on differing levels.
I mean come on dear, this is child's play.
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