POSTAGE WENT UP TO $0.41 TODAY
And I never sent my mom a Mother's Day card. I was busy having my own parenting crisis this weekend. So the 17 yr old is still sans job, and the 13 yr old is slacking at school and becoming a sexist sports freak.
Fuck yeah.
I am almost overwhelmed with the number of blogs and crap I am keeping up with lately.
I have also had a weird and long week or so of thinking and talking about sex/BDSM/polyamory.
Listening to the Polyamory Weekly podcast (polyweekly on LJ) has been quite illuminating. Thinking and talking about non-monogamy vs polyamory and whether they are the same thing is very interesting.
I do have issue with the archival podcasts that I have listened to regarding the HBO show "Big Love". Okay, she had only watched the first episode ( for the episode I listened to), and was only watching it because it represented poly relationships. But she and all her friends said the show was 'boring', and that she was irritated because of the role that the husband was playing (ie, not involved in many discussions, not communicating with the wives, secretly taking Viagara, etc.)
Well, first of all, this show is OBVIOUSLY NOT about your typical "poly" relationship. This is about a religious subsect, and their spiritually based beliefs and practices. This is like saying that the King of the Hill mis-portrays Texans. IT IS A FUCKING TV SHOW.
It is also BORING to portray real life in television. Reality shows are contrived, everyone knows that. Sitcoms that are close to reality are still so far away. Even documentaries are clipped and edited to represent the most interesting and relevant parts of the topic. Why expect a realistic representation of poly relationships on any show, much less one which about polygyny not polyamory.
Okay, that combined with horrid Xander/Spike Buffyverse slash fiction and the repugnant word 'frubble' (not to be confused with Frubble ) make this an increasingly futile exercise for me. I really like this woman's voice, she is funny, well spoken, the material is intelligent. I am curious to know what polyamory means to different people and this seemed like a good place to find some info.
As for "Big Love", Minx cannot get off the subject of the 'tithe' Bill pays to Roman (called so tongue in cheek.) She also hates the characters, she wants Bill to be more emotional to his wives, but she does not acknowledge that this is actually a show MORE about how people really act than how the "enlightened" poly people act. Jealous an neuroticism are more prevalent in relationships, and hetero marriages in a strongly patriarchal society/religion DO NOT typically include sensitive, emotional husbands. We are talking about people that are not only breaking the law, but also trying to hide their activities from their own religion.
I would recommend anyone who has further interest in the Church Of Latter Day Saints (LDS, Mormons) read a book called "Under The Banner of Heaven". It may shed some light on the situation, and make the show an exercise in entertainment instead of criticism.
No, I am not a Mormon, but I was raised in the very heart of the Mormon West, and I know a lot about it.
Again, Minx states she only watches it because it is about 'polyamory.' She shouldn't watch it because it is NOT really about polyamory.
Okay, I am going to shut up my own rant about "Big Love". I think it is a HILARIOUS show. Next season starts in June. Back to the archives to see if I owe Minx an apology.
My orchid is blooming again. For real, that is not a euphemism.
Fuck yeah.
I am almost overwhelmed with the number of blogs and crap I am keeping up with lately.
I have also had a weird and long week or so of thinking and talking about sex/BDSM/polyamory.
Listening to the Polyamory Weekly podcast (polyweekly on LJ) has been quite illuminating. Thinking and talking about non-monogamy vs polyamory and whether they are the same thing is very interesting.
I do have issue with the archival podcasts that I have listened to regarding the HBO show "Big Love". Okay, she had only watched the first episode ( for the episode I listened to), and was only watching it because it represented poly relationships. But she and all her friends said the show was 'boring', and that she was irritated because of the role that the husband was playing (ie, not involved in many discussions, not communicating with the wives, secretly taking Viagara, etc.)
Well, first of all, this show is OBVIOUSLY NOT about your typical "poly" relationship. This is about a religious subsect, and their spiritually based beliefs and practices. This is like saying that the King of the Hill mis-portrays Texans. IT IS A FUCKING TV SHOW.
It is also BORING to portray real life in television. Reality shows are contrived, everyone knows that. Sitcoms that are close to reality are still so far away. Even documentaries are clipped and edited to represent the most interesting and relevant parts of the topic. Why expect a realistic representation of poly relationships on any show, much less one which about polygyny not polyamory.
Okay, that combined with horrid Xander/Spike Buffyverse slash fiction and the repugnant word 'frubble' (not to be confused with Frubble ) make this an increasingly futile exercise for me. I really like this woman's voice, she is funny, well spoken, the material is intelligent. I am curious to know what polyamory means to different people and this seemed like a good place to find some info.
As for "Big Love", Minx cannot get off the subject of the 'tithe' Bill pays to Roman (called so tongue in cheek.) She also hates the characters, she wants Bill to be more emotional to his wives, but she does not acknowledge that this is actually a show MORE about how people really act than how the "enlightened" poly people act. Jealous an neuroticism are more prevalent in relationships, and hetero marriages in a strongly patriarchal society/religion DO NOT typically include sensitive, emotional husbands. We are talking about people that are not only breaking the law, but also trying to hide their activities from their own religion.
I would recommend anyone who has further interest in the Church Of Latter Day Saints (LDS, Mormons) read a book called "Under The Banner of Heaven". It may shed some light on the situation, and make the show an exercise in entertainment instead of criticism.
No, I am not a Mormon, but I was raised in the very heart of the Mormon West, and I know a lot about it.
Again, Minx states she only watches it because it is about 'polyamory.' She shouldn't watch it because it is NOT really about polyamory.
Okay, I am going to shut up my own rant about "Big Love". I think it is a HILARIOUS show. Next season starts in June. Back to the archives to see if I owe Minx an apology.
My orchid is blooming again. For real, that is not a euphemism.