I have Passive Aggressive tendencies
In the recent past,
discodoris has made me realise that I have passive aggressive tendencies. In fact, looking at the wikipedia article, it seems that I often exhibit all of these behaviours. It's quite alarming, to see my whole personality outlined in one article, showing how none of my reactions to situations are positive.
What I would usually do here is justify why these are all natural, blame my father (who, I see now, exhibits the same behaviours, and is one of the reasons why we haven't spoken for 4 years) and claim that I can't change. It's how I am - live with it - why should I change for you - take me as I am - disagree with me and it's your problem, and all the other usual passive-aggressive defences.
However, I'm not going to do that. I see all of these in me, now that Doris has given me specific examples, and I realise that I need to change. I'm not sure, at this stage, what I need to do differently, though.
Therefore, I'm after ideas, techniques and examples of how to deal with this. I promise to try not to become sullen and resentful at any suggestions, but I *do* need to get this sorted
discodoris has made me realise that I have passive aggressive tendencies. In fact, looking at the wikipedia article, it seems that I often exhibit all of these behaviours. It's quite alarming, to see my whole personality outlined in one article, showing how none of my reactions to situations are positive.
What I would usually do here is justify why these are all natural, blame my father (who, I see now, exhibits the same behaviours, and is one of the reasons why we haven't spoken for 4 years) and claim that I can't change. It's how I am - live with it - why should I change for you - take me as I am - disagree with me and it's your problem, and all the other usual passive-aggressive defences.
However, I'm not going to do that. I see all of these in me, now that Doris has given me specific examples, and I realise that I need to change. I'm not sure, at this stage, what I need to do differently, though.
Therefore, I'm after ideas, techniques and examples of how to deal with this. I promise to try not to become sullen and resentful at any suggestions, but I *do* need to get this sorted