i copied this from stephen's girlfriend
i like this. i think all girls need to read it.
After A While
Veronica Shoffstall
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security. and you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't promises. and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead, with the grace of a woman not the grief of a child. and you learn to build your roads on today because tomorrows ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, you really are strong, you really have worth. and you learn, and you learn.
With every good-bye you learn