Oh Em Eff Gee. Does my muse not see the title of this document I'm working on for the Honey flashwork?! "Short and sweet" it says. Short. And. Sweet
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Absolutely, I agree with you it is far better for me to be aware of what's going on and to be able to separate it as an actionable item rather than an intrinsic part of my personality. That's what the first round of therapy did for me, and my continuing awareness of what's going on is I think why I've never needed to officially go back.
I'm intrigued to hear of your description of your empathy difficulty. For the most part, I feel other people's emotions *incredibly* strongly (although I've got quite a flat affect, so they'd never know that). But I naturally intellectualise and control my own authentic emotions and smother them with reasons and rationalisations and disaster recovery plans until I'm not even aware of them apart from the nervous tics--and I try to do that too with these disproportionately strong empathetic reactions I get from other people because I know they're going around feeling them all over the place, or anticipate that they will if I do something or remember that they probably did because of something I've already done, but they're so strong that they keep bubbling up. I have more trouble feeling the quiet moments though, the points when people are actually happy, because I'm too wound up with all the things that grieve me for them even if they're long over it or hadn't even noticed.
Your decision making process sounds good, and it's certainly my goal! Hopefully decisions can get a bit easier for me if I can take a step back and chill a little, manage to actually internalise how little the things I obsess about matter rather than just continuing telling myself.
And yes, I can imagine mindfulness being popular in Sweden. From what I can see they seem generally pretty willing to move with evidence-based theory, and mindfulness has a lot of good science associated with it.
Thanks for the comment, appreciate your thoughts on it all.
Absolutely, I agree with you it is far better for me to be aware of what's going on and to be able to separate it as an actionable item rather than an intrinsic part of my personality. That's what the first round of therapy did for me, and my continuing awareness of what's going on is I think why I've never needed to officially go back.
I'm intrigued to hear of your description of your empathy difficulty. For the most part, I feel other people's emotions *incredibly* strongly (although I've got quite a flat affect, so they'd never know that). But I naturally intellectualise and control my own authentic emotions and smother them with reasons and rationalisations and disaster recovery plans until I'm not even aware of them apart from the nervous tics--and I try to do that too with these disproportionately strong empathetic reactions I get from other people because I know they're going around feeling them all over the place, or anticipate that they will if I do something or remember that they probably did because of something I've already done, but they're so strong that they keep bubbling up. I have more trouble feeling the quiet moments though, the points when people are actually happy, because I'm too wound up with all the things that grieve me for them even if they're long over it or hadn't even noticed.
Your decision making process sounds good, and it's certainly my goal! Hopefully decisions can get a bit easier for me if I can take a step back and chill a little, manage to actually internalise how little the things I obsess about matter rather than just continuing telling myself.
And yes, I can imagine mindfulness being popular in Sweden. From what I can see they seem generally pretty willing to move with evidence-based theory, and mindfulness has a lot of good science associated with it.
Thanks for the comment, appreciate your thoughts on it all.
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