"You just don't like kids!"
I've heard that many times and in many situations. Many of my friends even believe this but in reality, it's not that I don't like kids because I actually do. No, I don't want any of my own because... to be completely honest... I'm extremely greedy with what I have. I don't want to devote my life, my sanity, my toys, or
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They won't listen, and they'll get really offended if someone offers.
(Sorry, but this got a bit long.)
I still remember my brother snapping at me, "I got this." in a restaurant where his 2 little monsters were doing things like standing on the seats and yelling. It was a family restaurant, but still... family restaurant does not mean playground. If I hadn't been so shocked I would have shot back, "It sure doesn't look that way." His children were AWFUL in restaurants, and he was the worst at "disciplining" them, while their mother completely ignored whatever was going on. I wasn't even a parent and I knew that they were "doing it wrong." So I stopped going to restaurants with them.
Interestingly, my brother's "unique" parenting style has not worked against my niece, who is a sweetheart. But her older brother? He was a bit of a brat, and now he's turning into a real jerk and a bully, I'm sad to say. He is downright disrespectful of my brother sometimes, and my brother's "I don't care" response doesn't help at all. The kid is clearly acting out for attention, because he pulls back anytime somebody calls him on it. And he's a big kid, and he plays sports... really aggressively. *sigh* I think he thinks he's a real badass.
A surprising number of people were actually shocked when I decided to have a child. They thought I didn't like children. Well... I don't much like it when a child rushes the stage and I simply won't allow it, even if their idiot parents will. I know better than to butt in when kids are being bratty... until said brats start messing with my job. Then it's "If you don't parent your kids, I will... and you probably won't like it." If that means I don't like kids then I live in a very interesting world indeed.
And my daughter? At 2 and a half she behaves herself better in restaurants than my niece and nephew ever did. But if she didn't, out the door we would go without any hesitation.
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Every time I've told a kid to get off a stage, the parent has either seemed completely oblivious (like they seriously don't get what the big deal is) or blown off the whole thing (embarrassed, maybe). I don't think I've ever gotten an apology.
Interestingly, whenever a kid has groped my instrument -- it happens a lot, it's like they can't help themselves -- the parents have always either told the child themselves or agreed with me when I said something. But with the instrument groping... kids are QUICK when it comes to touching things. Maybe the parents are more understanding or responsive because I'm right there and it's not happening in front of a large audience?
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For one thing, I think it's incredibly presumptuous to think that somebody wants my advice. For another, it's a big pet peeve of mine when people offer me unsolicited advice.
But obviously if some kid decides to jump onstage where our instruments are, I'm going to shoo him or her off.
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Most of my family thinks that I don't like children because of the fact that I basically ignore that SIL's kids (since if I'm not allowed to tell them "no" I have no intention of telling them "good").
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