I personally found once I stopped hanging out with certain people, my life became way better anyways.
I used to consider a lot of people in CP my "friends". A lot of people who apparently didn't think the same way about me. People who talked about me behind my back and used me for things.
It seems your life has taken a different direction than theirs. That is probably where the problems begin, though it may come across as other reasons. It seems like you're not interested in the life that some people chose to live. It seems you have gotten out of that same routine, that seems to be getting a lot of people NO WHERE. If you're going to school and working, and you have a girlfriend who makes you happy, then good for you! I suggest you keep it that way and just let go of the people who aren't at the same points in their life as you. People grow, change, whatever .... friendships are bound to end. Meet new people (if you already haven't), people that are at the same points in their life, or want the same things from their life.
Don't stress and dwell over other people. Though it's hard, because they were your friends, sometimes you just have to accept how things have turned out. Don't let things people say, get to you. Especially since you should already be aware that a lot of those people LOVE to talk trash. I think a lot of them LIVE for it. So let them and move on with your own life, and just keep doing what you're doing!
Hope that makes sense. I just woke up and felt compelled to respond.
It does make sense. And not to sound mean, but I was actually suprised on how cool of a response this was. It just seems that you would have tore me a new asshole or something. :P
I'm extremely happy with my life right now, you're right. I'm just sick of seeing people I know and have to question on how two-faced they are. I don't want drama back in my life, so why would I talk to someone who rubs my name in the dirt when I'm not around. Thats why I asked the question at the beginning of my post.
Now why would I do that? I could care less about the situation, it's not my problem at all. I don't even know everything thats gone on, besides whats mentioned in peoples journal, and that's definitely nothing I would base opinions off of. I don't talk to anybody from CP anymore or hang out with them, aside maybe LJ/myspace comments, yippee. So my comment was just me giving you advice based on the overall situation, not on specifics, because I don't want to know specifics. I don't care if me saying what I said made other people unhappy either! Oh well, boohoo.
I just say let it go. It's annoying and childish that people are going to talk about you behind your back, people that you thought were good people. But people are going to do it. And when you acknowledge the fact that they're doing it, it just makes them do it more. Two-faced people are EVERYWHERE, no matter HOW old you are, what not. It doesn't stop. It's just one of those things, you have to think about and go "look who is saying this about me". And really, stop and think about some of people who have been two-faced. Think about where their lifes are and what they're doing, then you'll begin to care a little less.
The drama and the back-stabbing is ridiculous in a vast number of people that either of us used to hang out with. It's not just YOU they do it to either. Some of those people thrive on it, I don't think they would know what to do without it. So don't take it personally and don't let it bother you. Don't even acknowledge it, because it's just a waste of time.
I've been trying to tune them out for a while. I just miss some of my old friends who hang out with those choice people. I feel I can't trust them anymore, and I want to know if I can trust them.
I don't have many friends because of the trust issue. I miss my old friends. I want them back. But dwelling in the past is just as bad as dwelling on the shit talk that goes on.
I used to consider a lot of people in CP my "friends". A lot of people who apparently didn't think the same way about me. People who talked about me behind my back and used me for things.
It seems your life has taken a different direction than theirs.
That is probably where the problems begin, though it may come across as other reasons. It seems like you're not interested in the life that some people chose to live. It seems you have gotten out of that same routine, that seems to be getting a lot of people NO WHERE. If you're going to school and working, and you have a girlfriend who makes you happy, then good for you! I suggest you keep it that way and just let go of the people who aren't at the same points in their life as you. People grow, change, whatever .... friendships are bound to end. Meet new people (if you already haven't), people that are at the same points in their life, or want the same things from their life.
Don't stress and dwell over other people. Though it's hard, because they were your friends, sometimes you just have to accept how things have turned out. Don't let things people say, get to you. Especially since you should already be aware that a lot of those people LOVE to talk trash. I think a lot of them LIVE for it. So let them and move on with your own life, and just keep doing what you're doing!
Hope that makes sense. I just woke up and felt compelled to respond.
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I'm extremely happy with my life right now, you're right. I'm just sick of seeing people I know and have to question on how two-faced they are. I don't want drama back in my life, so why would I talk to someone who rubs my name in the dirt when I'm not around. Thats why I asked the question at the beginning of my post.
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I just say let it go. It's annoying and childish that people are going to talk about you behind your back, people that you thought were good people. But people are going to do it. And when you acknowledge the fact that they're doing it, it just makes them do it more. Two-faced people are EVERYWHERE, no matter HOW old you are, what not. It doesn't stop. It's just one of those things, you have to think about and go "look who is saying this about me". And really, stop and think about some of people who have been two-faced. Think about where their lifes are and what they're doing, then you'll begin to care a little less.
The drama and the back-stabbing is ridiculous in a vast number of people that either of us used to hang out with. It's not just YOU they do it to either. Some of those people thrive on it, I don't think they would know what to do without it. So don't take it personally and don't let it bother you. Don't even acknowledge it, because it's just a waste of time.
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I don't have many friends because of the trust issue. I miss my old friends. I want them back. But dwelling in the past is just as bad as dwelling on the shit talk that goes on.
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