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So I read this book The 5 Love Languages and I do see the value of it... but some of the things I read I actually found offensive.
In the acknowledgments section in the beginning the author mentions his wife and says "if all wives loved as she does, fewer men would be looking over the fence." Just what the fuck does that mean? That wives are to blame for husband's infidelity? REALLY?
Near the end of the book, there was a section about how a wife was trying to save a failing marriage by speaking the love language of her husband (makes sense). But the author encouraged her to try to initiate sex with her husband even though she didn't feel close with him. I found this offensive, especially when he said something to the effect of "your faith in God will help you do this" WHAT??! Here is the majority of the passage:
Those two things aside, I do see the value of finding out what your spouse/lover considers expressions of love. I believe my top love language is Quality Time followed by Physical Touch. I got near equal scores for both, but quality time was 1 or 2 points ahead.
In the acknowledgments section in the beginning the author mentions his wife and says "if all wives loved as she does, fewer men would be looking over the fence." Just what the fuck does that mean? That wives are to blame for husband's infidelity? REALLY?
Near the end of the book, there was a section about how a wife was trying to save a failing marriage by speaking the love language of her husband (makes sense). But the author encouraged her to try to initiate sex with her husband even though she didn't feel close with him. I found this offensive, especially when he said something to the effect of "your faith in God will help you do this" WHAT??! Here is the majority of the passage:
Those two things aside, I do see the value of finding out what your spouse/lover considers expressions of love. I believe my top love language is Quality Time followed by Physical Touch. I got near equal scores for both, but quality time was 1 or 2 points ahead.