While I am not a fixture in your life, I do read your journal entries and attempt to keep up with Diedra's journal, too. It just sounds like such inconsistent BS. While you should have "known better" than to date someone else within the family, knowing it would likely lead to someone getting hurt (I don't know Suzie, but I am sure she's a logical individual who would have 'known better', too, so this isn't specifically your fault), it sounds like you were told OK (I assume by Diedra because I thought she was over you and her entries seemed like she was dating or had "feelings" for other people, but they were all vague entries, so who knows?).
If the family is treating you like this, then stay away from the family. No one has any right to tell you who it is okay and not okay to date or have feelings for. My impression of the journal entries I have read is that Diedra is incredibly inconsistent towards you, which would put anyone into a constant state of confusion and panic. Obviously, Suzie is choosing her family (I could only imagine the pressure on her to do so), so there is really nothing you can do except you can continue living your life or you can wait for her to change her mind (which may never happen).
My advice? Stay away from the family. Not easy to do, but that is my brutally honest advice for the day.
Kevin, I do wish that you can take control of your life and move on. Try dating a girl who doesn't need your 'help', too. That only creates codependency and you will find that you'll get involved with girls who are inconsistent and there will be little boundaries in the relationship. Eventually, these type of girls find out that they don't really need you all that much, thus leaving you in the dust. It'll do you wonders to just find a girl who is your equal, is respectful of your feelings, and doesn't 'need' your help.
*deep breath* I do love you, care about you, and think about you often. I hope you get things figured out.
It's not that the family is making the decision. They aren't, at all. They want me to be happy and whatnot. They want Suzie to be happy too. Suzie made the decision in favor of her family because that is the type of person she is. She's extremely selfless. She's sacrificing her own feelings so her familys (namely Diedra) won't get hurt. That is not something I am upset about, because it is a very admirable act. We've talked some and things between Suzie and I are A-OK.
I made this entry when I was upset so some things might appear different than what they truly are. She doesn't need my help. That isn't the case, at all. I'm just a very giving person when it comes to helping people. It's the one thing I feel like I do well. Suzie was every bit of my equal in that dept. It wasn't a "save the damsel in distress" situation at all.
Diedra can be very inconsistent. One minute she needs me in her life and the next I am getting thrown out of it. I don't know what to do about all of that. I've tried to talk to her but she isn't willing to hear it really, so there isn't much I can do there..except wait.
She did say it was OK but it obviously wasn't, and that is what I want to work out with her. It obviously isn't going to happen when I'm cut out of her life, though.
If the family is treating you like this, then stay away from the family. No one has any right to tell you who it is okay and not okay to date or have feelings for. My impression of the journal entries I have read is that Diedra is incredibly inconsistent towards you, which would put anyone into a constant state of confusion and panic. Obviously, Suzie is choosing her family (I could only imagine the pressure on her to do so), so there is really nothing you can do except you can continue living your life or you can wait for her to change her mind (which may never happen).
My advice? Stay away from the family. Not easy to do, but that is my brutally honest advice for the day.
Kevin, I do wish that you can take control of your life and move on. Try dating a girl who doesn't need your 'help', too. That only creates codependency and you will find that you'll get involved with girls who are inconsistent and there will be little boundaries in the relationship. Eventually, these type of girls find out that they don't really need you all that much, thus leaving you in the dust. It'll do you wonders to just find a girl who is your equal, is respectful of your feelings, and doesn't 'need' your help.
*deep breath* I do love you, care about you, and think about you often. I hope you get things figured out.
*hugs*
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I agree with every word, Kevin.
(((hugs)))
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It's not that the family is making the decision. They aren't, at all. They want me to be happy and whatnot. They want Suzie to be happy too. Suzie made the decision in favor of her family because that is the type of person she is. She's extremely selfless. She's sacrificing her own feelings so her familys (namely Diedra) won't get hurt. That is not something I am upset about, because it is a very admirable act. We've talked some and things between Suzie and I are A-OK.
I made this entry when I was upset so some things might appear different than what they truly are. She doesn't need my help. That isn't the case, at all. I'm just a very giving person when it comes to helping people. It's the one thing I feel like I do well. Suzie was every bit of my equal in that dept. It wasn't a "save the damsel in distress" situation at all.
Diedra can be very inconsistent. One minute she needs me in her life and the next I am getting thrown out of it. I don't know what to do about all of that. I've tried to talk to her but she isn't willing to hear it really, so there isn't much I can do there..except wait.
She did say it was OK but it obviously wasn't, and that is what I want to work out with her. It obviously isn't going to happen when I'm cut out of her life, though.
Thanks for all the advice.. :)
Kevin
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