Friendships
In the last few weeks I have really been observing my friendships with other people. Last night I learned several things about my friends. I had a party and had invited several of them to come and join me for a little laughter and a lot of fun. Well, before I knew it 15 people had canceled on me and some of them who I consider to be quite close friends. Many of them had very valid reasons to cancel such as no transportation or a serious situation arising at home, but others canceled only to go spend time with other people. Some even spent time with new strangers rather than with an old friend. I honestly felt so alone last night. Three of my best guy friends came and spent time with me. It's amazing that guys can spend hours without getting deep in a relationship and girls will delve right into the emotional side, but in the end guys are still much more loyal to each other. I wonder if there really is a single trustworthy woman out there sometimes.
I recently made a new friend in the last month who has changed my outlook on trustworthy women. She has had her share of misfortune and hurt throughout life, which is something I can surely relate to. I feel like I have bonded with her so well and am better off for having her in my life. Acquaintances come a dime a dozen, but a true friend only comes a few times in a lifetime. God has blessed me with at least a few and I have realized those are the few I should be directing my attention, affection, and love toward.
In my short 21 years I have learned a lot about life, but the most valuable lesson was that of true friendship. I don't know if I fully grasped it until last night. After the party, or shall I say get together, was over, I lay in my bed alone and felt the full spectrum of my life for the first time in a while. I was face to face with only myself and saw that who I was with many people in my life is not who I want to be. I treat a select few as if they are up on pedestals adorned with a crown of glory. I know this is because they have gained my trust, respect, admiration, and love through each loyal act of love they have shown to me. Others I have treated with less love and respect, because I have held onto their transgressions, rather than freeing myself of the hurt and moving on. I no longer want to hold onto the pain anyone might have caused me. It's time to forgive, but definitely not forget. As it's said, "Bite me once, shame on you. Bite me twice, shame on me." Thank God for loneliness and times of reflection!
I recently made a new friend in the last month who has changed my outlook on trustworthy women. She has had her share of misfortune and hurt throughout life, which is something I can surely relate to. I feel like I have bonded with her so well and am better off for having her in my life. Acquaintances come a dime a dozen, but a true friend only comes a few times in a lifetime. God has blessed me with at least a few and I have realized those are the few I should be directing my attention, affection, and love toward.
In my short 21 years I have learned a lot about life, but the most valuable lesson was that of true friendship. I don't know if I fully grasped it until last night. After the party, or shall I say get together, was over, I lay in my bed alone and felt the full spectrum of my life for the first time in a while. I was face to face with only myself and saw that who I was with many people in my life is not who I want to be. I treat a select few as if they are up on pedestals adorned with a crown of glory. I know this is because they have gained my trust, respect, admiration, and love through each loyal act of love they have shown to me. Others I have treated with less love and respect, because I have held onto their transgressions, rather than freeing myself of the hurt and moving on. I no longer want to hold onto the pain anyone might have caused me. It's time to forgive, but definitely not forget. As it's said, "Bite me once, shame on you. Bite me twice, shame on me." Thank God for loneliness and times of reflection!