I loved Modern Romance! Really well researched, but presented with humor. I listened to the book, and Ansari narrates too, so that was cool, to hear it in his voice.
It definitely is interesting, when he interviews the folks in the senior home to learn both how they met their mates and to discover how much simpler their desires were when it came to love.
I think he is right, that as we pursue romantic perfection, we are missing out on a lot of awesome potential mates. In my personal experience, it's one thing to discover someone who looks perfect on paper - or through an Internet dating algorithm - and an entirely different experience meeting that "perfect" person AND having that one essential spark that makes it all come together - chemistry!
As for the global culture phenomenon, I have met some amazing people and had some life changing experiences, because of the internet. I've traveled the world. I've learned about other cultures. I've had my eyes opened - and opened some eyes.
As for romance, I would never intentionally seek out long distance. I am too motivated by hugs and cuddles and sappy stuff that you just have to be in person to manage. And, I know myself well enough to know that I need that often, or it just starts to feel restrictive.
Interesting post and I've heard a lot about that book. I'll have to check it out.
I wouldn't do well with a long distance romance either. My husband and I lived just an hour from each other when we met but, with work schedules, really only saw each other on weekends for the first two years of our relationship. That was TOUGH!
Sounds like an interesting read. I'm currently reading Hillbilly Elegy, a memoir by J.D. Vance. Great family dynamic story. And his struggle to break out of a unique circle.
That's been on my list for a while. Living in North Georgia, we see so many people that come from the generational poor. Did you read Jeanette Walls The Glass Castle? I loved that memoir and someone told me that if I liked that, I'd enjoy Hillbilly Elegy as well.
Me, I used to love LJ for exposing me to folks who were just different enough from me to keep it interesting. These days I count on the local rock gym and mom communities to get exposure to people that I share some experiences with, but may be super different on others.
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It definitely is interesting, when he interviews the folks in the senior home to learn both how they met their mates and to discover how much simpler their desires were when it came to love.
I think he is right, that as we pursue romantic perfection, we are missing out on a lot of awesome potential mates. In my personal experience, it's one thing to discover someone who looks perfect on paper - or through an Internet dating algorithm - and an entirely different experience meeting that "perfect" person AND having that one essential spark that makes it all come together - chemistry!
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(Help yourself to the cookies. I hear the snickerdoodles are particularly good today.)
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As for romance, I would never intentionally seek out long distance. I am too motivated by hugs and cuddles and sappy stuff that you just have to be in person to manage. And, I know myself well enough to know that I need that often, or it just starts to feel restrictive.
Interesting post and I've heard a lot about that book. I'll have to check it out.
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That was TOUGH!
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Romance? I simply wouldn't look online. Friendship, yes. Romance, no.
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Me, I used to love LJ for exposing me to folks who were just different enough from me to keep it interesting. These days I count on the local rock gym and mom communities to get exposure to people that I share some experiences with, but may be super different on others.
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