Jan 21, 2008 20:13
I've been dating this guy for about a month now... Things were going...ok. I didn't really get to know him too well since he always seemed to be cancelling on me. I could tell he was an honest person, so his reasons were probably legitimate. However I told him from the start that i just wanted to be friends...and that if our friendship grew close enough I'd commit and we'd label eachother boyfriends and such... a month later (and only having met in person 3 times) he tells me he wants me to only be involved with him, that is, only have sex with him. I've heard myself say in the past that i want a monogamous relationship...but it seems that has changed. I share a somewhat unusual and unique relationship with my friend Mike, and last night I learned that I'm not ready for that to change. I didn't have sex with him, and it hurt me...alot more than I thought it would. I didn't want to hurt the guy I was dating, but I wanted to be honest with him as I felt if our relationship continued he would be hurt by thinking I was something else that I wasn't. He didn't take it too well...but I feel I made the right decision. He wants someone more conservative, and he's a good guy to get what he wants. I just feel terrible that it ended on such a bad note...but I guess it could have been worse....If you're reading this....I'm sorry I hurt you.