Big News
Hey everyone. I just wanted to post an update that I am 33 now and well things are different.
Steve proposed on Saturday (my birthday) and of course I said yes. It hasn't really quite sunk in yet.
I have only told my parents and brother and my friend Janice since she called right after.
So, I guess things are a changin.
I have to say that we have been very close for a long time and everything seemed logically like being engaged or married in our relationship except that we live in 2 different places. So, I don't really feel any different even though I know it is.
Steve didn't know what kind of ring to get so he borrowed his great grandmother's wedding band from his mom that I can wear until that is figured out. So, I look more married than engaged right now. Which is ok too.
I guess when you feel like something is just right it isn't really very suprising that this is happening although I did think he would wait longer because next month will be 12 months since we started dating. I also thought it might be hard to make a decision like this not having any other long term relationships to compare it with but Steve assures me this isn't a problem.
So, we are off... and have no answers to any of the weding related questions. We don't know when, where or how all this will come together and we probably won't decide for a while yet. There was a joke of getting married by the end of the year for the income tax benefit but alas that is a joke. There is a lot to combining lives and households that will take a long time since we both will have to sell our places and that won't happen quickly in this market.
So, I guess you might wonder if as a girl I am overjoyed and think this is the most important moment in my life. Well yes and no. I am happy and really quite relieved. By 33 you wonder if getting engaged or married is even possible anymore and after all the crazy relationships I have been in I also wondered if Steve would want this or run off like so many others. I am relieved that not only has he been the best in compatibility yet but that he wanted this too.
I am happy in a calm kind of way. Nothing with Steve requires any worry. He is the most dependable, consistent, reliable, trustworthy guy ever. And that isn't even commenting on his attractiveness, smarts or sense of humor. I feel extremley lucky and blessed at this point.
I also think while getting engaged is important, it may not be more important than getting my college degree or buying my condo or working my way up in my job. I am still committed to achieveing things in my life even after marriage and not letting it all go like my mom had to do. I would like to think of my work, family and relationship as equal accomplishments rather than favoring the disney fairy tale "getting married is eveything" view that past generations of women my family had.
That said, I really enjoy Steve's family and look forward to meeting more of them and bringing everyone together for a fun celebration in a year or so. And I think we really got this right. I love Steve very much and think we will be very happy together, although probably happier after all the wedding planning is out of the way.
Steve proposed on Saturday (my birthday) and of course I said yes. It hasn't really quite sunk in yet.
I have only told my parents and brother and my friend Janice since she called right after.
So, I guess things are a changin.
I have to say that we have been very close for a long time and everything seemed logically like being engaged or married in our relationship except that we live in 2 different places. So, I don't really feel any different even though I know it is.
Steve didn't know what kind of ring to get so he borrowed his great grandmother's wedding band from his mom that I can wear until that is figured out. So, I look more married than engaged right now. Which is ok too.
I guess when you feel like something is just right it isn't really very suprising that this is happening although I did think he would wait longer because next month will be 12 months since we started dating. I also thought it might be hard to make a decision like this not having any other long term relationships to compare it with but Steve assures me this isn't a problem.
So, we are off... and have no answers to any of the weding related questions. We don't know when, where or how all this will come together and we probably won't decide for a while yet. There was a joke of getting married by the end of the year for the income tax benefit but alas that is a joke. There is a lot to combining lives and households that will take a long time since we both will have to sell our places and that won't happen quickly in this market.
So, I guess you might wonder if as a girl I am overjoyed and think this is the most important moment in my life. Well yes and no. I am happy and really quite relieved. By 33 you wonder if getting engaged or married is even possible anymore and after all the crazy relationships I have been in I also wondered if Steve would want this or run off like so many others. I am relieved that not only has he been the best in compatibility yet but that he wanted this too.
I am happy in a calm kind of way. Nothing with Steve requires any worry. He is the most dependable, consistent, reliable, trustworthy guy ever. And that isn't even commenting on his attractiveness, smarts or sense of humor. I feel extremley lucky and blessed at this point.
I also think while getting engaged is important, it may not be more important than getting my college degree or buying my condo or working my way up in my job. I am still committed to achieveing things in my life even after marriage and not letting it all go like my mom had to do. I would like to think of my work, family and relationship as equal accomplishments rather than favoring the disney fairy tale "getting married is eveything" view that past generations of women my family had.
That said, I really enjoy Steve's family and look forward to meeting more of them and bringing everyone together for a fun celebration in a year or so. And I think we really got this right. I love Steve very much and think we will be very happy together, although probably happier after all the wedding planning is out of the way.