LJ idol week something-Fear is the heart of love

[thepheenixeyri]

It hurts. Always

Comments

[rayaso]

I hope you are rarely treated as disabled, although I imagine that is the default position of most people. This was an eloquent plea.

[thepheenixeyri]

It comes and goes; and it takes different forms. It's been a while, thankfully, but it has happened.

There are so many things I can tell you about that I didn't put in there-people treating me like I'm a breakable china doll-like my blindness is contagious, etc, but that would've made it less enjoyable, and less eloquent, as you've put it.

Thank you.

-P~

[halfshellvenus]

All of those fears and restrictions make sense when you add blindness into the mix, but ideally there should be more skills and independence as you grow older. Even if a guide-dog is what makes the biggest difference, there is so much you can do independently. All children start out with these restrictions, but their judgment is what improves as they get older...so long as their parents and surroundings are helping them to develop that wisdom and judgment instead of eternally protecting them against growing up.

I hope you're finding more and more of that as you go along, or are in a situation now where you will.

[thepheenixeyri]

I am-thought the guide is no londer with me; he is at the Rainbow Bridge, but I have no way of changing the icon to reflect this.

I laive alone now, and am slowly learning that my own judgments/decisions are just as valid as everyone elses, and it's a heady freeing feeling.

-P~

[devilz_workshop]

There is kind of a protective instinct that overtakes everything else, when you are in the company of differently abled people. It gets kind of difficult to suppress, but it should be suppressed nevertheless. Offer help, but please consider their choices before you take a call is all I can say. I hope people hear your message loud and clear.

[thepheenixeyri]

Instead of assuming that we always need help and dragging us across a street getting us even more lost-and yes this has happened. Not to me, thankfully, but I've heard of it happening.

I do, too. I feel like expanding this now, and making it a bit more involved, fleshing out explanations and whatnot. You know, making it an actual blog instead of a list of vague things.

-P~

[rswndrlst]

I was recently reading something that commented on the programmed prejudice of language in describing a person by their minority or disability

the "Asian girl" instead of: the girl who is also Asian, the "blind woman" instead of the woman who is blind

reading this even more I want to pay closer attention to how I speak, and I even misused the word blind in one of my entries last year in a way that was completely ableist and was glad when someone called me out on it because it makes me a less lazy writer.

I hope you continue to fight for independence and equality thanks for the perspective here.

[thepheenixeyri]

You're welcome.

Yeah and I grew up with mostly "the blind woman/blind daughter" thing. It started changing only when I was older, but it still happened from time to time. Here, it's not so bad, since I live by myself (With two cats-not the dog; he passed some time ago) and I have people who treat me like me (Some say they can't even tell I'm blind wich kinda makes me feel good). It's nice, ya'know?

Also, what do you write, and where? I'm always looking for new blogs to check out, (Or book recs if you have any) xd

-P~

[rswndrlst]

http://rswndrlst.livejournal.com/5022.html

this is the link to the entry I refrenced from lj idol season 9

I really only use this rswndrlst for idol. I am working on a wordpress blog but still figuring it out.

I've lost track of the article about prejudice and language that I read

I'm bummed you didn't make the deadline for the write off and I hope you home game / second chance idol

[my_name_is_jenn]

As a person with a disability, I can relate to a lot of this.

♥

[thepheenixeyri]

I'll bet. <3 Since I don't know how to do emogies and stuff from the compy. xd

-P~