this sums up a lot of what has been on my mind lately

[themoon]

"We all still harbor deep psychological pain and painstakingly patched up wounds which we suffered in childhood and adolescence. People we trusted may have disappointed or abandoned us, and the largely unconscious pain left behind continues to have a strong influence on our present-day behavior. You can now have the chance to grow out of obsolete patterns of behavior and to stop behaving like a hurt child. If you are able to do this you will soon find that others react differently, enabling you to resolve many intractable problems which seemed to be unavoidable in the past."

http://www.astro.com