sex advice blog

[theliberalslut]

you can see my sex advice blogger site herei am an expert of many things, and sex is definitely one of them (as is no doubt indicated by my blog name). i have been reading a lot of sex advice columns recently, and when i read the answers given, often i think to myself "well shit, i could do better than THAT." and then today i thought "well, dammit

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[anonymous]

What if masturbation just doesn't do it for you? I've tried a number of times, but nothing, not even direct clitoral stimulation when I'm turned on does it for me. It's not interesting or pleasurable in the least--it's about as interesting as brushing my teeth, and even if I'm lubricated and very aroused, penetration with a finger isn't really comfortable. I've learned more about my body through masturbation (ie, where the clitoris actually is), but I've never gotten any pleasure out of it.

I've done some sexual experimentation with my boyfriend, basically "dry" sex, which doesn't do much for me either. If I'm turned on, it starts out rather pleasurable and arousing, but I'm nowhere near an orgasm, even if he's touching and sucking my breasts, neck, and ears which are the biggest turn-on for me. By the end I usually start to get a bit sore though and just want it to be over. He really wants to please me, but I don't know how he can. I'm not very experienced--I've been with him for awhile, and he was the first guy I ever kissed. So I don't know exactly what I want or what will be good for me. I'm committed to staying a virgin until marriage, so sex (including oral) is not an option. I'm still not sure about fingering, but I honestly don't know if I *can* have an orgasm.

My boyfriend says he doesn't want to do things if I don't enjoy it too. I feel pretty comfortable with him, and we've talked about it, but I'm still not sure. Rubbing feels better than nothing, even if I don't get a lot of pleasure out of it. I wonder if it may improve with time or if there's something I can do to make it feel better. At the same time, I also worry that nothing sexual (beyond kissing/making out) is ever going to be pleasurable for me.