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[theladytrinity]

I hate wedding planning. No one ever trusts you to know what you want, and when you do find something you know you'll love, everyone's waiting to steer you away from it or let you know how poorly you've chosen. I wish this were all over.

ETA: ...buuut then once in a while you get someone who realizes they've said something obnoxious to you, and

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[ext_218792]

Awww, Think about your honeymoon to stay motivated?

[theladytrinity]

I tried -- we found a resort in the Poconos that offered pretty much everything we wanted in a honeymoon -- but family took a passive-aggressive shot at that and now I feel like hell again.

And this is just the wedding! I can only imagine how bad it would be if I eventually popped out a kid. Everyone would be lining up to tell me how to raise the thing and point out everything I'm doing wrong. I'll just get a cat. In life, as on the Internet, everything's better with cats.

[bravest_unsaid]

I don't understand, how do the people in question even begin to think it is their place? How do they frame these things? What passive-aggressive shots can be taken?! It's your honeymoon! They don't have to go!

[theladytrinity]

The comment I got was "but you can go to the Poconos any time! I just want you to go somewhere special!" Um, thanks, but we were really excited about all the cool stuff available to do on this honeymoon, and that was special enough for us, and now I feel like ass. Oh well, I booked it anyway, I'll eventually get back to "ZOMG we're going to have SO MUCH FUN".

Anyone who questions any of my wedding decisions always frames it in terms of what's best for everyone involved. And the person in question has been putting pressure on me to fly and most likely thinks that my fear of flying is holding me and Will back. I do have to work on that, it's just... this isn't the time.

[bravest_unsaid]

Arrrrgh. I feel like it is one [obnoxious and almost always unacceptable] thing to advise re: parts of the wedding one will directly be involved with, but it is another [really fucking obnoxious!] thing to advise re: the honeymoon, which is none of their damn concern whatsofuckingever!

As to what is or is not holding you back, that is, once again, not their problem!

[theladytrinity]

Will, thankfully, has been saying that. He's all for the honeymoon we've picked out, and since his opinion is the only one that counts, that's good enough for me. I'm just tired of every wedding move I make being judged and second-guessed.

God, I wish it were my wedding night. Not the wedding eve, but the night, because on my wedding night, all the hard part will be over, and I can look forward to a whole week where I don't have to have a thing to do with any relatives whatsoever.