[TM] Is there a situation where it's appropriate to be unkind?
This is kind of a tricky question, isn't it? If you say yes, you look like a bastard. If you say no, you look like someone just waiting to be stomped on.
I don't think it's appropriate to be unkind to people, but at the same time everyone has a limit. Even the nicest one of the lot. You're supposed to treat others as you want to be treated, and there's some level of common courtesy that needs to be given. Why burn bridges by being a git to someone, you know?
Not everyone knows of that "common courtesy," though. It's actually rather uncommon sometimes, so why keep being kind to those people if they don't deserve it? Being cruel or whatever for no reason is stupid, I think, but at the same time I don't believe that there's a point in wasting your time, kindness and efforts in people who don't deserve it. Respect is earned. It's not just something that's a given.
When I'm angry I can be really ... well, unkind is one word for it. If I'm cross at someone, I stop trying to be nice. What's the point, if things are just one sided? It's probably very un-badger like of me, but I guess things change as years pass and we get older. I know I used to be nice and kind to everyone I'd meet. I still am, but my fuse is shorter for those that don't deserve it. I'm so tired of that right now, but I'm just trying to learn how to pick my battles. Instead of wasting my time being overly kind to someone who doesn't deserve it, or being purposely unkind even if they do deserve it, I'm learning to stay indifferent. Or I'm trying, anyway. Wasting my time, efforts and energy is pointless. If that counts as being unkind, then that's that, I guess.
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I don't think it's appropriate to be unkind to people, but at the same time everyone has a limit. Even the nicest one of the lot. You're supposed to treat others as you want to be treated, and there's some level of common courtesy that needs to be given. Why burn bridges by being a git to someone, you know?
Not everyone knows of that "common courtesy," though. It's actually rather uncommon sometimes, so why keep being kind to those people if they don't deserve it? Being cruel or whatever for no reason is stupid, I think, but at the same time I don't believe that there's a point in wasting your time, kindness and efforts in people who don't deserve it. Respect is earned. It's not just something that's a given.
When I'm angry I can be really ... well, unkind is one word for it. If I'm cross at someone, I stop trying to be nice. What's the point, if things are just one sided? It's probably very un-badger like of me, but I guess things change as years pass and we get older. I know I used to be nice and kind to everyone I'd meet. I still am, but my fuse is shorter for those that don't deserve it. I'm so tired of that right now, but I'm just trying to learn how to pick my battles. Instead of wasting my time being overly kind to someone who doesn't deserve it, or being purposely unkind even if they do deserve it, I'm learning to stay indifferent. Or I'm trying, anyway. Wasting my time, efforts and energy is pointless. If that counts as being unkind, then that's that, I guess.
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