I've definitely gotten into the habit of answering the birth control question with LESBIANISM. I AM USING LESBIANISM TO PREVENT PREGNANCY. IT IS 100% EFFECTIVE. I suspect there may be a note in my file: Will Not Pee In The Cup.
It's odd, because at school I am both Out and Not Out - I don't talk about it in class, because a) I teach in a relatively conservative district and b) my desire to discuss my sexuality during what should be a lesson on the pluperfect is basically nil...but I'm out to my GSA kids, so it's not like it's a state secret. I actually ran into a student at a school event last week, and I'm pretty sure she had just realized (or possibly realized while we were talking) that I'm marrying a woman. Sudden attack of ambiguous pronouns! Fun for everybody!
(I find that wedding planning stuff is helpful, actually - people know how to talk about weddings, usually! Although my coworkers were extremely curious about which of us had asked the other. WHAT DO YOU MEAN, NEITHER OF YOU IS THE MAN?)
IN conclusion: thank you for this post, which resonated with me more than I wish it did.
(I find that wedding planning stuff is helpful, actually - people know how to talk about weddings, usually! Although my coworkers were extremely curious about which of us had asked the other. WHAT DO YOU MEAN, NEITHER OF YOU IS THE MAN?)
For some reason, the first thing we get is "Who does the cooking?" People don't even blink at the wedding thing. Maybe they assume she asked.
Sadly, having a kid sort of solidifies in peoples minds which one is the man. It's the one who didn't give birth! (I have no idea how they process the couples where neither one did. Or both did. Or where the one who stays home with the kid is the one who didn't give birth. Other people's heads: confusing and confused.)
Man, the Ambiguous Pronoun Attacks! I had forgotten about those.
It's odd, because at school I am both Out and Not Out - I don't talk about it in class, because a) I teach in a relatively conservative district and b) my desire to discuss my sexuality during what should be a lesson on the pluperfect is basically nil...but I'm out to my GSA kids, so it's not like it's a state secret. I actually ran into a student at a school event last week, and I'm pretty sure she had just realized (or possibly realized while we were talking) that I'm marrying a woman. Sudden attack of ambiguous pronouns! Fun for everybody!
(I find that wedding planning stuff is helpful, actually - people know how to talk about weddings, usually! Although my coworkers were extremely curious about which of us had asked the other. WHAT DO YOU MEAN, NEITHER OF YOU IS THE MAN?)
IN conclusion: thank you for this post, which resonated with me more than I wish it did.
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For some reason, the first thing we get is "Who does the cooking?" People don't even blink at the wedding thing. Maybe they assume she asked.
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Man, the Ambiguous Pronoun Attacks! I had forgotten about those.
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