things i need to learn
The first thing you have to accept is that your partner is going to be almost no help. His mother will always be one of the most important people in his life. He may not chance that she is interfering and, if he does, he probably won't care to change it.
The other difficult point is that, no matter how much of a cow she appears to be, she's almost certainly doing it for what she feels are the right reasons. Accept that she is not Satan and you are halfway there.
Apply the same principle to daily life. If his mother is a pain in the are, it is probably because she really wants to be involved in her son's life. Serious girlfriends make many mothers insecure. Involve her in things where she can be genuinely useful.
I learn that a sure fire way of being blessed with in-laws is to be a blessing myself. The question to ask here is: Are my in-laws blessed with a daughter/son-in-law or are they cursed with one? Remember you have to love yourself first before anyone can love you
Appreciate your mother-in-law; she deserves some credit, some appreciation for having given birth to and raised that ‘special man or woman’ to be who he is today.
If you love your husband/wife, you will make it your mission to relate better with his/her people. Let the relationship grow over time.
Your in-laws might have a negative attitude towards you, because you can't be who they expected. You cannot be the best person for their son/daughter. Make peace with that, and they will soon come around. Prove them wrong by just being yourself. Stay neutral and balance in the whole time
Understand that most paternal grandparents feel 'unprivileged' when it comes to involvement with their grandchildren Don't contribute to this feeling; let the children visit them, don't deny your kids a relationship with their grandparents because of your misunderstandings.
The other difficult point is that, no matter how much of a cow she appears to be, she's almost certainly doing it for what she feels are the right reasons. Accept that she is not Satan and you are halfway there.
Apply the same principle to daily life. If his mother is a pain in the are, it is probably because she really wants to be involved in her son's life. Serious girlfriends make many mothers insecure. Involve her in things where she can be genuinely useful.
I learn that a sure fire way of being blessed with in-laws is to be a blessing myself. The question to ask here is: Are my in-laws blessed with a daughter/son-in-law or are they cursed with one? Remember you have to love yourself first before anyone can love you
Appreciate your mother-in-law; she deserves some credit, some appreciation for having given birth to and raised that ‘special man or woman’ to be who he is today.
If you love your husband/wife, you will make it your mission to relate better with his/her people. Let the relationship grow over time.
Your in-laws might have a negative attitude towards you, because you can't be who they expected. You cannot be the best person for their son/daughter. Make peace with that, and they will soon come around. Prove them wrong by just being yourself. Stay neutral and balance in the whole time
Understand that most paternal grandparents feel 'unprivileged' when it comes to involvement with their grandchildren Don't contribute to this feeling; let the children visit them, don't deny your kids a relationship with their grandparents because of your misunderstandings.