So I was thinking and...
First time in a long time here folks. Anyway, I start off with a question to all the peeps out thurr...
On Halloween I hung around with Dominic and Brittany in the evening. Dominic doing what he does best makes everything awkward by telling Brittany she should go out with me. I'm like WTF, what could possibly trigger that urge to ask such a random question? She says that she could never go out with me because we're such good friends and the like so I'm like yep yep and stuff as I didn't really care because idk why Dominic even said anything. But then after awhile it got me thinking... Why do people choose not to go out with other people just because they're good friends? The reasoning is usually something along the lines of "if we breakup, then we'll lose our friendship". Well that's not entirely true. I prefer to get to know a person REALLY well and then let myself decide whether or not they're worth the effort. Unfortunately though in this society, that's not the way things are supposed to happen so I usually always get the answer Brittany provided Sunday night. Anyway, getting back to the common response, if the friendship was so good to begin with, then it should be able to last through a breakup and go back to the way things were. For one reason or another, people feel it's such a risk to upgrade their friendship with a close friend which IMO makes absolutely no sense. People look at their past relationships and they look at how quite often the breakup can be very stressful and that the former couple never end up being friends. Well I ask this, were they actually really good friends to begin with? Chances are that they weren't so therefore it wouldn't make sense for them to end up being friends. I look around at most of the high school relationships with awe because of how little communication there is between the two people involved. Yes it's wonderful to like someone and have them like you too and have all that cute little relationship stuff, but that feeling doesn't last forever. Eventually when everything settles down, you basically have to be friends with the person. This is where most high school relationships go sour. Because the people involved aren't used to being typical friends with each other, they run out of things to do as the special relationship feeling has worn out and this is where many breakups begin to develop. Now when I say you have to learn to be friends with the person, that doesn't mean to cut out all the cute little relationship stuff, it just means that you can't base your relationship only on that and that you need to learn to enjoy yourselves in other ways then just the typical cute relationship stuff. This is a concept that most people cannot grasp. They can't understand the fact that you can't just snuggle and kiss forever. You need to learn to enjoy yourselves as many friends do. There's nothing wrong with it at all, it can actually make things far more fun because when you can have an excellent friendship and then all the benefits of actually being in a relationship, that's when it becomes something special. So now after reading all that and hopefully comprehending it, I conclude with the same question as I began... "Why do people choose not to go out with other people just because they're good friends?"
On Halloween I hung around with Dominic and Brittany in the evening. Dominic doing what he does best makes everything awkward by telling Brittany she should go out with me. I'm like WTF, what could possibly trigger that urge to ask such a random question? She says that she could never go out with me because we're such good friends and the like so I'm like yep yep and stuff as I didn't really care because idk why Dominic even said anything. But then after awhile it got me thinking... Why do people choose not to go out with other people just because they're good friends? The reasoning is usually something along the lines of "if we breakup, then we'll lose our friendship". Well that's not entirely true. I prefer to get to know a person REALLY well and then let myself decide whether or not they're worth the effort. Unfortunately though in this society, that's not the way things are supposed to happen so I usually always get the answer Brittany provided Sunday night. Anyway, getting back to the common response, if the friendship was so good to begin with, then it should be able to last through a breakup and go back to the way things were. For one reason or another, people feel it's such a risk to upgrade their friendship with a close friend which IMO makes absolutely no sense. People look at their past relationships and they look at how quite often the breakup can be very stressful and that the former couple never end up being friends. Well I ask this, were they actually really good friends to begin with? Chances are that they weren't so therefore it wouldn't make sense for them to end up being friends. I look around at most of the high school relationships with awe because of how little communication there is between the two people involved. Yes it's wonderful to like someone and have them like you too and have all that cute little relationship stuff, but that feeling doesn't last forever. Eventually when everything settles down, you basically have to be friends with the person. This is where most high school relationships go sour. Because the people involved aren't used to being typical friends with each other, they run out of things to do as the special relationship feeling has worn out and this is where many breakups begin to develop. Now when I say you have to learn to be friends with the person, that doesn't mean to cut out all the cute little relationship stuff, it just means that you can't base your relationship only on that and that you need to learn to enjoy yourselves in other ways then just the typical cute relationship stuff. This is a concept that most people cannot grasp. They can't understand the fact that you can't just snuggle and kiss forever. You need to learn to enjoy yourselves as many friends do. There's nothing wrong with it at all, it can actually make things far more fun because when you can have an excellent friendship and then all the benefits of actually being in a relationship, that's when it becomes something special. So now after reading all that and hopefully comprehending it, I conclude with the same question as I began... "Why do people choose not to go out with other people just because they're good friends?"