My current situation
As I stated before, Megan and I have been looking for a place together. We've been looking at places on craigslist and keep coming across all sorts of ads that clearly state "no couples". Despite that, we were keeping our heads up and continuing our search. So, about half a week ago, we managed to schedule a few viewings.
The first place we checked out actually had two rooms available. We even told them we'd be willing to rent both out and make the other a game room or something (as they mentioned being interested in gaming). When we arrived and started talking to them, they had no qualms about us being a couple or sharing a room. In fact, they had already rented out the other room. The place was a little dirty, but nothing we'd mind all that much. Plus, it's only 575 a month there to split. Completely managable. We left there feeling pretty good.
Well, on the way home we discussed the place and Megan reminded me that a friend of hers was looking for someone to take his roommate's room as he was leaving soon. We decided to check that place out before we settled on anything.
The house was in the same neighborhood, much cleaner and I really got along with her friend. All sorts of nerdy happenings were potentialities and I discussed many role-playing games with her friend, among other things. He had nerf guns laying on the tables for decoration. The room we'd be renting out was huge, with a walk-in closet. It would be more expensive but we looooved the place. We met his roommate that was moving out and his roommate that was probably moving out and they seemed pretty nice.
SEEMED.
After convinved Megan's parents how cool this place was, we got their blessing to finalize it. Megan tells her friend that and that she'll see him the next day to talk about it. Apparently, 20 minutes before this guy leaves for the class he shares with Megan, the roommate that's probably moving out, who says that he hates the neighborhood and that living there is "stifling [him]" says that he doesn't want to live with a couple. He says that he talked to some people and they don't think it's a good idea.
Megan comes home and explains this to me. She's pretty upset about it, I'm mildly so. At the same time, I get an email from the other place saying that they'd decided they want us to live with them and to call them as soon as possible. Great news, usually, but we were completely smitten about the other place. It comes down to some punk ass kid (this roommate of her friend's is 19, just finishing his first semester at City College) who refuses to live with us without getting to know either of us personally.
Not quite sure what to do, because we really want this other place to work out, I email the other place and say that I'm not in town at the moment and that I'd get back to them today, after talking to Megan. Meanwhile, there are no new developments on the other place. The kid still doesn't want to live there, but he doesn't want us to live there either. We find out that he's banking on living with a friend of his who off-handedly remarked one time that they should move in somewhere together. Then we find out that he had a friend potentially lined up to take the other room if that didn't work out. We're now suspecting that it might be an ulterior motive of his that his dislike of us as a couple is actually a way of putting it off until he gets his way by filling the room with his friend. And everything that Megan's friend says about his "apartment search" is that he never does anything more than look at the pretty pictures on craigslist-- never calls, never emails.
This afternoon rolls around and I'm antsy to call the other people. I don't want to lose the opportunity if we're really not getting the other place. However, we're in this sort of purgatory about it, so we try to call her friend and talk to him about it. I share my very rational opinions, which he for the most part agrees with. Then I offer to come out and talk to the kid tomorrow. I hear him being asked and he says flat out no. He is not even willing to meet with me to talk about anything. Expletives. I then hear that it's also a bad day because he's going to go look at places to live with his friends. This means I have to call the other place to get them to hold on just a little while longer. Joy.
I left a voicemail saying that we had one more place to look at tomorrow but would definitely get back to them shortly after. I said in all likelihood we'd take them up on the offer. I'm stalling as long as I can.
Meanwhile, I've yet to share one word with this kid who's preventing us from moving in, even though I really want to. We even offered just to have Megan live there until he finds a place, but I don't think that he'd even agree to that. It's either that this guy really does hate the idea of couples, or the more likely option that he is trying to push his roommate around so that he can have someone that he wants move in and not us.
I know I mentioned it before that I was looking for some sort of legal resource for the rights of unmarried couples. If it is the case that he just doesn't like the idea of a couple, that pisses me off to no end. I've been hearing conflicting viewpoints on this, but I strongly believe that this is a form of discrimination and it really makes me want to learn how to fight it.
I'm just afraid that by waiting for this kid to either talk to me (which he refuses to do) or find a place that we've lost our back-up plan and our time is running out. I'm just livid that this guy would so adamantly oppose our moving into his place when he doesn't even want to live there in the first place.
TL;DR version- Megan and I are having trouble with an apartment we really want because a kid who doesn't even want to live there claims he doesn't want to live with a couple.
The first place we checked out actually had two rooms available. We even told them we'd be willing to rent both out and make the other a game room or something (as they mentioned being interested in gaming). When we arrived and started talking to them, they had no qualms about us being a couple or sharing a room. In fact, they had already rented out the other room. The place was a little dirty, but nothing we'd mind all that much. Plus, it's only 575 a month there to split. Completely managable. We left there feeling pretty good.
Well, on the way home we discussed the place and Megan reminded me that a friend of hers was looking for someone to take his roommate's room as he was leaving soon. We decided to check that place out before we settled on anything.
The house was in the same neighborhood, much cleaner and I really got along with her friend. All sorts of nerdy happenings were potentialities and I discussed many role-playing games with her friend, among other things. He had nerf guns laying on the tables for decoration. The room we'd be renting out was huge, with a walk-in closet. It would be more expensive but we looooved the place. We met his roommate that was moving out and his roommate that was probably moving out and they seemed pretty nice.
SEEMED.
After convinved Megan's parents how cool this place was, we got their blessing to finalize it. Megan tells her friend that and that she'll see him the next day to talk about it. Apparently, 20 minutes before this guy leaves for the class he shares with Megan, the roommate that's probably moving out, who says that he hates the neighborhood and that living there is "stifling [him]" says that he doesn't want to live with a couple. He says that he talked to some people and they don't think it's a good idea.
Megan comes home and explains this to me. She's pretty upset about it, I'm mildly so. At the same time, I get an email from the other place saying that they'd decided they want us to live with them and to call them as soon as possible. Great news, usually, but we were completely smitten about the other place. It comes down to some punk ass kid (this roommate of her friend's is 19, just finishing his first semester at City College) who refuses to live with us without getting to know either of us personally.
Not quite sure what to do, because we really want this other place to work out, I email the other place and say that I'm not in town at the moment and that I'd get back to them today, after talking to Megan. Meanwhile, there are no new developments on the other place. The kid still doesn't want to live there, but he doesn't want us to live there either. We find out that he's banking on living with a friend of his who off-handedly remarked one time that they should move in somewhere together. Then we find out that he had a friend potentially lined up to take the other room if that didn't work out. We're now suspecting that it might be an ulterior motive of his that his dislike of us as a couple is actually a way of putting it off until he gets his way by filling the room with his friend. And everything that Megan's friend says about his "apartment search" is that he never does anything more than look at the pretty pictures on craigslist-- never calls, never emails.
This afternoon rolls around and I'm antsy to call the other people. I don't want to lose the opportunity if we're really not getting the other place. However, we're in this sort of purgatory about it, so we try to call her friend and talk to him about it. I share my very rational opinions, which he for the most part agrees with. Then I offer to come out and talk to the kid tomorrow. I hear him being asked and he says flat out no. He is not even willing to meet with me to talk about anything. Expletives. I then hear that it's also a bad day because he's going to go look at places to live with his friends. This means I have to call the other place to get them to hold on just a little while longer. Joy.
I left a voicemail saying that we had one more place to look at tomorrow but would definitely get back to them shortly after. I said in all likelihood we'd take them up on the offer. I'm stalling as long as I can.
Meanwhile, I've yet to share one word with this kid who's preventing us from moving in, even though I really want to. We even offered just to have Megan live there until he finds a place, but I don't think that he'd even agree to that. It's either that this guy really does hate the idea of couples, or the more likely option that he is trying to push his roommate around so that he can have someone that he wants move in and not us.
I know I mentioned it before that I was looking for some sort of legal resource for the rights of unmarried couples. If it is the case that he just doesn't like the idea of a couple, that pisses me off to no end. I've been hearing conflicting viewpoints on this, but I strongly believe that this is a form of discrimination and it really makes me want to learn how to fight it.
I'm just afraid that by waiting for this kid to either talk to me (which he refuses to do) or find a place that we've lost our back-up plan and our time is running out. I'm just livid that this guy would so adamantly oppose our moving into his place when he doesn't even want to live there in the first place.
TL;DR version- Megan and I are having trouble with an apartment we really want because a kid who doesn't even want to live there claims he doesn't want to live with a couple.