You are so right. It definitely helps us appreciate the good stuff.
You don't strike me as a negative person. You don't come off that way in your journal or in email at all.
One thing I hate, is hen I'm feeling negative and want to bitch or feel sorry for myself and someone tries to make me be positive or points out what I should be grateful for. Just let me be negative for a little while. Then I'll be grateful later.
That reminds me of a country song that says something like that -- what is the name of it. Terry Clark and she's talking about being mad at her husband. *looking for it - it would help if I spelled her name right - it's Terri Clark* It's called "I Just Wanna Be Mad". Here's the chorus:
"I'll never leave, I'll never stray My love for you will never change But I ain't ready to make up We'll get around to that I think I'm right I think your wrong I'll probably give in before long Please don't make me smile I just want to be mad for awhile"
I guess it's like my sister. She had to be mad for awhile. That really is better. I tend to stuff emotions like that and it is very unhealthy!
I got off the negative v. positive thing, but it kind of goes together, right??
I have problems with Jack in terms of that. When he was about 3, I was amazed because he started saying "What can I do to make you happy?" when I got mad. I thought....how sweet! How caring?
But now I realize that's wrong. IF I'm mad, I need time to get over it. I can't just smile and say "Well, thanks. All is better now." Now I tell him the best thing is to give me space.
Oh and I HATE when people try to get you to see the bright side....or try to get you to realize how others are worse off than you.
When I'm feeling sorry for myself, it makes me feel ten times worse to hear about people who are worse off than me. First it makes me feel guilty. Second, it makes me feel that things are hopeless.
I feel much better hearing about people who are BETTER off than me. I guess it gives me hope that my life can be good again too. Or people who have problems equal to me. Then I know I'm not alone.
We all deserve a pity party now and then.
Once my sister emailed us about how she was so depressed. Her life was a mess. Husband recovering from surgery. Daughter had stomach flu. Barfing all over the house. Total nightmare.
Someone emailed her saying she was disturbed by my sister's depression...that things could be so much worse. I jumped on her bandwagon and tried to give my sister a pep talk. Then I realized how WRONG I was. I wrote back, apologized, said my sister's current situation totally sucked, and she has every right to be depressed. My sister was very grateful about that.
I once told my problems to a friend. She pretty much laughed at me and downplayed everything. That hurt and I don't think I tell my problems to that friend anymore.
I told another friend and she agreed with me. I DID have a problem....a big problem. She had no idea how to fix my problem, but she gave me sympathy. That was very much appreciated.
You don't strike me as a negative person. You don't come off that way in your journal or in email at all.
One thing I hate, is hen I'm feeling negative and want to bitch or feel sorry for myself and someone tries to make me be positive or points out what I should be grateful for. Just let me be negative for a little while. Then I'll be grateful later.
That reminds me of a country song that says something like that -- what is the name of it. Terry Clark and she's talking about being mad at her husband. *looking for it - it would help if I spelled her name right - it's Terri Clark* It's called "I Just Wanna Be Mad". Here's the chorus:
"I'll never leave, I'll never stray
My love for you will never change
But I ain't ready to make up
We'll get around to that
I think I'm right I think your wrong
I'll probably give in before long
Please don't make me smile
I just want to be mad for awhile"
I guess it's like my sister. She had to be mad for awhile. That really is better. I tend to stuff emotions like that and it is very unhealthy!
I got off the negative v. positive thing, but it kind of goes together, right??
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I have problems with Jack in terms of that. When he was about 3, I was amazed because he started saying "What can I do to make you happy?" when I got mad. I thought....how sweet! How caring?
But now I realize that's wrong. IF I'm mad, I need time to get over it. I can't just smile and say "Well, thanks. All is better now." Now I tell him the best thing is to give me space.
Oh and I HATE when people try to get you to see the bright side....or try to get you to realize how others are worse off than you.
When I'm feeling sorry for myself, it makes me feel ten times worse to hear about people who are worse off than me. First it makes me feel guilty. Second, it makes me feel that things are hopeless.
I feel much better hearing about people who are BETTER off than me. I guess it gives me hope that my life can be good again too. Or people who have problems equal to me. Then I know I'm not alone.
We all deserve a pity party now and then.
Once my sister emailed us about how she was so depressed. Her life was a mess. Husband recovering from surgery. Daughter had stomach flu. Barfing all over the house. Total nightmare.
Someone emailed her saying she was disturbed by my sister's depression...that things could be so much worse. I jumped on her bandwagon and tried to give my sister a pep talk. Then I realized how WRONG I was. I wrote back, apologized, said my sister's current situation totally sucked, and she has every right to be depressed. My sister was very grateful about that.
I once told my problems to a friend. She pretty much laughed at me and downplayed everything. That hurt and I don't think I tell my problems to that friend anymore.
I told another friend and she agreed with me. I DID have a problem....a big problem. She had no idea how to fix my problem, but she gave me sympathy. That was very much appreciated.
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