Bumibritney Spears: Not A Girl, Not Yet a Woman.
I think that there are three major types of women: The New Maria Clara, The Ordinary Girl, And The Liberated One (i was gonna say post-modern, but since NOBODY really, truly understands what the hell Post-modern really means, i'm just gonna put The Liberated One). This is my attempt at understanding society, but it is not in anyway an unchangeable belief. I've never been one for categorizing people, but for the sake of trying to walk out of my quarter-life crisis alive, i am going to make himay-himay this whole thing like a thorny tilapia.
Every once in a while there is a female who happens to have great balance between all three types, but that is rare, and the most difficult thing to accomplish. you secretly hate her and secretly want to be her. but you'll never admit it. We'll talk more about her later. and since The Ordinary Girl is so NORMAL that i'll probably describe her as "nice" 350 times, i'll just skip on her.
Take note that i don't think any one type is better than the other. every single woman is beautiful in her own way and is always capable of being better, stronger, bigger. some are just more boring than others and some are skankier than others (UGH CAN YOU PLEASE STOP WEARING PEK PEK SHORTS EVERYWHERE YOU GO. tag-ulan na huy mahahamog ka niyan eh).
The New Maria Clara, as you can derive from the name, is the part-traditional, part-go-get-em woman. she's the one who won't belch out loud, she'll cover her mouth when she laughs oh so daintily, she'll never ask a guy out on a date, she expects to be courted, and she is respected for her femininity. She is strong but she believes in the different roles of men and women in society, and has no issues regarding these roles. she knows that even if it's the man who brings home the moolah, she controls most of the things at home. the man may be the head, but she is the neck that turns that head (hello, My Big Fat Greek Wedding quote right there! i do not plagiarize!)
The Liberated One is all about conquering the world, she struggles to be heard, seen and appreciated, she believes in equal rights and will open doors for men. she has no problem with earning more than her husband, but she'll probably be attracted to power, more often than not. The Liberated One can't sit still, she needs to always be doing something, fighting for something. and fight she does. sometimes a bit too much.
Now, guess which one i fall under? yes, that's right. i am the perfect embodiment of The New Maria Clara.
HAHAHAHAHHAA.
anyway so back to being honest. yeah, i guess growing up surrounded by strong, empowered and loud women has developed my desire to be just as strong, just as empowered, and okay maybe hopefully NOT as loud. though i'm not so sure i'll ever accomplish that.
The women i look up to are INCREDIBLE women who fight for their right to be CEOs of companies, to be head surgeons, to be President (though not necessarily the current one).
but i've also learned that our femininity has such force. there are some things that are accomplished so easily by using that oh-so-alluring Hair Flip, or the you can look but you can't touch vibe. what can i say? sex sells. and men are pigs. (okay sorry, low blow. not all men. just most)
Men are lucky because throughout history they had the right to IMPOSE things, you know? yeah we had some pretty great women then but it was a MAN'S WORLD. they made us fight for the right to vote. fight for the right to be doctors and firewomen and all that jazz.
What was my point again? oh wait, yeah.
How does a woman retain her strength, be respected for her intelligence, her drive and ambition, and not be seen as a ball buster?
How does a woman learn to harness all her sexuality and beauty and grace and not be such a HO?
See these are things that women spend their lives perfecting, while feeling pressure from all sides to be this, be that. you hear the things "you're not feminine enough" or "you're so maarte". and all the while you're trying to find exactly who you are and accepting that person through and through is not always such an easy thing.
I work in a male dominated industry and i can't wait for the day people stop saying "girl band" and just say "band".
It's gonna get there. let's just hold on ladies, and fight our way through til we no longer have to fight, without a single hair out of place.
Every once in a while there is a female who happens to have great balance between all three types, but that is rare, and the most difficult thing to accomplish. you secretly hate her and secretly want to be her. but you'll never admit it. We'll talk more about her later. and since The Ordinary Girl is so NORMAL that i'll probably describe her as "nice" 350 times, i'll just skip on her.
Take note that i don't think any one type is better than the other. every single woman is beautiful in her own way and is always capable of being better, stronger, bigger. some are just more boring than others and some are skankier than others (UGH CAN YOU PLEASE STOP WEARING PEK PEK SHORTS EVERYWHERE YOU GO. tag-ulan na huy mahahamog ka niyan eh).
The New Maria Clara, as you can derive from the name, is the part-traditional, part-go-get-em woman. she's the one who won't belch out loud, she'll cover her mouth when she laughs oh so daintily, she'll never ask a guy out on a date, she expects to be courted, and she is respected for her femininity. She is strong but she believes in the different roles of men and women in society, and has no issues regarding these roles. she knows that even if it's the man who brings home the moolah, she controls most of the things at home. the man may be the head, but she is the neck that turns that head (hello, My Big Fat Greek Wedding quote right there! i do not plagiarize!)
The Liberated One is all about conquering the world, she struggles to be heard, seen and appreciated, she believes in equal rights and will open doors for men. she has no problem with earning more than her husband, but she'll probably be attracted to power, more often than not. The Liberated One can't sit still, she needs to always be doing something, fighting for something. and fight she does. sometimes a bit too much.
Now, guess which one i fall under? yes, that's right. i am the perfect embodiment of The New Maria Clara.
HAHAHAHAHHAA.
anyway so back to being honest. yeah, i guess growing up surrounded by strong, empowered and loud women has developed my desire to be just as strong, just as empowered, and okay maybe hopefully NOT as loud. though i'm not so sure i'll ever accomplish that.
The women i look up to are INCREDIBLE women who fight for their right to be CEOs of companies, to be head surgeons, to be President (though not necessarily the current one).
but i've also learned that our femininity has such force. there are some things that are accomplished so easily by using that oh-so-alluring Hair Flip, or the you can look but you can't touch vibe. what can i say? sex sells. and men are pigs. (okay sorry, low blow. not all men. just most)
Men are lucky because throughout history they had the right to IMPOSE things, you know? yeah we had some pretty great women then but it was a MAN'S WORLD. they made us fight for the right to vote. fight for the right to be doctors and firewomen and all that jazz.
What was my point again? oh wait, yeah.
How does a woman retain her strength, be respected for her intelligence, her drive and ambition, and not be seen as a ball buster?
How does a woman learn to harness all her sexuality and beauty and grace and not be such a HO?
See these are things that women spend their lives perfecting, while feeling pressure from all sides to be this, be that. you hear the things "you're not feminine enough" or "you're so maarte". and all the while you're trying to find exactly who you are and accepting that person through and through is not always such an easy thing.
I work in a male dominated industry and i can't wait for the day people stop saying "girl band" and just say "band".
It's gonna get there. let's just hold on ladies, and fight our way through til we no longer have to fight, without a single hair out of place.