That's totally not fair. I have dialogued with you, extensively. And I, obviously, do not condem you.
I guess that because I know that you are brilliant, and because I know you must think of these things (I've pointed some of them out), I have no choice but to conclude that you just don't care to change on those issues, that you are content.
I do not understand what you mean or are referring to by the "spirit of the action and that makes me sad."
We have talked about this all a lot. About braids on white folks. About dreads on white folks. About my tattoo. About -albeit good- intent vs. how its read/how it effects the lives of POC. All of these issues. And I guess you even momentarily thinking it's ok (and then actually doing it!) to wear a burqa to the Exotic Erotic Ball disgusts me. Really badly. I love you, but I don't give a shit what your "spirit of the action" was. That's totally fucked up and you know it. You're too intelligent not to know it.
Another aside: I don't get to decide if you are an ally to people of color. You don't either.
I am willing to continue these conversations further. Preferably in person. But I'm not willing to waste my time. So, unless you are approaching them from the position of 'maybe I'm being called out on my shit and am going to do something about it,' let's not bother. I don't want to theorize about racism. Does that make sense?
i do think you are examining it. then i think you are doing it anyway. that's the whole point.
you've got to be kidding about the "nod to anime." we've been through this before. I get it; I don't buy it, nor think it lets you off the hook. at all.
I don't want you to feel unseen or unheard. seriously. you know i care about you; we've been friends a long time and that matters to me. But I can't have friends that do racist things without giving a shit - thinking its funny or the like. I don't respect those people and what are friendships without respect?
Our friendship matters to me and talking about this matters to me. In a way that we both feel seen and heard or whatnot. coffee? name the time.
I guess that because I know that you are brilliant, and because I know you must think of these things (I've pointed some of them out), I have no choice but to conclude that you just don't care to change on those issues, that you are content.
I do not understand what you mean or are referring to by the "spirit of the action and that makes me sad."
We have talked about this all a lot. About braids on white folks. About dreads on white folks. About my tattoo. About -albeit good- intent vs. how its read/how it effects the lives of POC. All of these issues. And I guess you even momentarily thinking it's ok (and then actually doing it!) to wear a burqa to the Exotic Erotic Ball disgusts me. Really badly. I love you, but I don't give a shit what your "spirit of the action" was. That's totally fucked up and you know it. You're too intelligent not to know it.
Another aside: I don't get to decide if you are an ally to people of color. You don't either.
I am willing to continue these conversations further. Preferably in person. But I'm not willing to waste my time. So, unless you are approaching them from the position of 'maybe I'm being called out on my shit and am going to do something about it,' let's not bother. I don't want to theorize about racism. Does that make sense?
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you've got to be kidding about the "nod to anime." we've been through this before. I get it; I don't buy it, nor think it lets you off the hook. at all.
I don't want you to feel unseen or unheard. seriously. you know i care about you; we've been friends a long time and that matters to me. But I can't have friends that do racist things without giving a shit - thinking its funny or the like. I don't respect those people and what are friendships without respect?
Our friendship matters to me and talking about this matters to me. In a way that we both feel seen and heard or whatnot. coffee? name the time.
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This isn't a difference in opinion. You know it's wrong. You even said so in your journal...
I can't give racism respect. Sorry. I guess we shouldn't meet then because I am unwilling to just chock it up to "a difference in opinion."
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I'm done.
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