The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mar 16, 2006 14:47

Here's the deal, I'm always interested in what people think about me. SO this is kinda like that thing Brittany set up.

  • Leave an anonymous comment
  • Say one thing about me that really pisses you off
  • Say one thing about me that you think is an absolutely wonderful characteristic
  • The goal is to allow for me to change by abandoning the bad ( Read more... )

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anonymous March 17 2006, 00:03:08 UTC
i think it's silly that you emphasize that comments need to be anonymous. would these comments be more meaningful or less meaningful if you knew who made them? in a way, i think it might be better if you knew who was saying what because you'd have a better understanding of the point of view that those commenting are coming from. but then, i suppose if comments are anonymous, it's so much easier to dismiss the negative comments.
it takes a lot to piss me off, but, the above being said, one thing that bothers me about you is your constant need for approval from others. you'd be a much happier person if you just approved of yourself and didn't worry about what regard others held you in.
as for positive things. you have a certain humor about you, and aura almost, when you're in a good mood and happy that is pretty cool to be around. if you could replicate that mood, more often, well, who knows what would happen.

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thecowsspot March 17 2006, 01:57:26 UTC
The anonymousness is as you thought it might be - to dismiss the negative comments and just see them as a chance to improve myself rather than go insane over why people think that.

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aves_corax March 17 2006, 04:24:13 UTC
A double-edged sword, but perhaps the wiser nonetheless. Though I do wonder if you're logging IP addresses for comments. *shrugs*

I've thought on this a bit and will do so further, and I'll let you know what I come up with. And yes, I'll be anonymous when I do so.

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anonymous March 17 2006, 04:37:06 UTC
if IPs were being logged, it would say "Notice! This user has turned on the option that logs your IP address when posting." underneath the box where you type your comment.

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thecowsspot March 17 2006, 04:54:28 UTC
Uhhhhhh, Yeah... I have no idea what you guys are talking about... but just know I won't be tracking who said what. If I really wanted to know then I wouldn't have said to do it anonymous. Plus if people said who they were then I probably wouldn't be getting completely honest and/or acurrate commentation.

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anonymous March 17 2006, 05:49:46 UTC
silly... why do you need us to be honest with you? why not just be honest with yourself?

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thecowsspot March 17 2006, 13:28:29 UTC
Outsiders point of view. Seeing as my goal is self improvement, it makes sence that I bring that mold to my own morals mixed with other's opinions of my actions.

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anonymous March 17 2006, 05:15:06 UTC
of course, if you are willing to outright dismiss the negative comments, you completely defeat half the purpose of this exercise. and the purpose of the other half, i suppose, boils down to flattery?

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lazy_sunshine March 17 2006, 05:25:17 UTC
i think jane may not have said what she meant when she said that about dismissing negative things. i think what she meant was that she would rather focus on "okay, i need to change this" than "i can't believe he said that!" she isn't going to look at them as negative comments so much as she is going to look at them as a way to help her become a better person.

and the other half? well, who doesn't like a bit of flattery once in a while? no one gives anyone as much appreciation as they deserve. it's all guessing games and cheap "you look nice today" type comments. people usually take bad information better with a bit of good information, anyway.

so lay off her and quit being bitter.

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thecowsspot March 17 2006, 05:29:54 UTC
That is completely false. And you failed to read the rest of the comment which clearly states, "Just see [the negative comments] as a chance to improve myself." Also in the comment directly previous to yours I mention that by having these as anonymous people can leave completely brutal opinions, therefore I have that much more of a chance to improve myself. By having the other half, it allows me to sustain the self-esteem I currently have (which isn't very much). Basically the second half is just to lighten the load, if you will. By having complements it allows me to see that although I have things I need to change about myself there are things that I've done right. Do you understand NOW?!

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