How Do You Fix Someone Who Won't Admit Their Broken?
I've got a problem. It's my roommate. I love her to death and I plan to keep in touch with her past college -- But she has a huge problem, that in turn has gotten me spinning.
Liz is a wonderful, beautiful, intellegent woman. She is very naive, however and has had a pretty sheltered life... Compared to the things I know versus what she displays as knowledge. I feel like I am constantly teaching her things. Just about life. Relationships. Love. Boys. School...
Everything.
Liz gets stuck in relationships that are bad for her. She never sees it coming... And she doesn't knwo when to run.
Joe was bad for her. He ran her around while he cheated on her. The guy she dated over the summer beat her. Damien... Is a total asshole to her. He is keeping her around just incase his other girls don't pan out by saying things to her like "You were so good for me" and "Maybe when I am ready we could give it another shot."
She goes through phases where she hates him and knows what he did wo ther was wrong and will refuse to talk to him. The next week, she gushes about him and how, if he asked, they woudl get back together.
I do my best to tell her he is terrible. She responds with "I know". I tell her she will be miserable. She says "Maybe not." I say he is just using her. Keeping her around. Jerking her around. She says "Probably... But I do acutally miss him."
I'm sorry... But when you ask someone about their boyfriend and this is how they describe them, the relationship needs to end. "He's really hot. And the sex is great!" Not... He's sweet. He treats me right. My family loves him. He's a great guy. It's "The sex is great!"
And I try so hard to help her, but she refuses to heed my advice. She won't listen to me, even though, afyer all is said and done, she always ends up saying "You're always right, why don't I listen to you more?"
How do you help someone who refuses to learn? Who refuses to date guys based on whether or not they are fun and nice and rather on whether or not she is sexually into them?
How do you help someone who asks you for help, but doesn't want to listen to you?
Liz is a wonderful, beautiful, intellegent woman. She is very naive, however and has had a pretty sheltered life... Compared to the things I know versus what she displays as knowledge. I feel like I am constantly teaching her things. Just about life. Relationships. Love. Boys. School...
Everything.
Liz gets stuck in relationships that are bad for her. She never sees it coming... And she doesn't knwo when to run.
Joe was bad for her. He ran her around while he cheated on her. The guy she dated over the summer beat her. Damien... Is a total asshole to her. He is keeping her around just incase his other girls don't pan out by saying things to her like "You were so good for me" and "Maybe when I am ready we could give it another shot."
She goes through phases where she hates him and knows what he did wo ther was wrong and will refuse to talk to him. The next week, she gushes about him and how, if he asked, they woudl get back together.
I do my best to tell her he is terrible. She responds with "I know". I tell her she will be miserable. She says "Maybe not." I say he is just using her. Keeping her around. Jerking her around. She says "Probably... But I do acutally miss him."
I'm sorry... But when you ask someone about their boyfriend and this is how they describe them, the relationship needs to end. "He's really hot. And the sex is great!" Not... He's sweet. He treats me right. My family loves him. He's a great guy. It's "The sex is great!"
And I try so hard to help her, but she refuses to heed my advice. She won't listen to me, even though, afyer all is said and done, she always ends up saying "You're always right, why don't I listen to you more?"
How do you help someone who refuses to learn? Who refuses to date guys based on whether or not they are fun and nice and rather on whether or not she is sexually into them?
How do you help someone who asks you for help, but doesn't want to listen to you?