Reminder of Modesty
Subhanallah, Allah sends people to you as a form of reminder and a way to reflect on your own situation. Had a chillax discussion about marriage with a dear sister of mine, and this time, it was really chill because it doesn't make sense for me to be too excited about something that will not happen so soon. But anyway, I thought I knew what I wanted in my soulmate. I realized that my mind was blank as I tried to go through with her the list of important criterias my soulmate must have. When she shared with me hers, there was something about her that made me really ashamed of the type of person I can be or could be. Her modesty really manifest itself as she shared with me how uncomfortable it is when she is in a group get together and there are guys around and she felt that her soul was battered that she cried and felt sad about it. Allahu rabbi. Her heart is so sensitive to the slightest amount of sin. May Allah preserve her.
Also, she is so kind and soft-spoken and unselfish and humble. I pray that Allah will grant her the best spouse for her.
Modesty is really not about appearance or how much you cover. Although i must say that the outer manifestation of modesty, which include how one person dresses as well as their actions ie their speech and deeds, will facilitate the development of the inner modesty. The inner modesty will refer to whether our thoughts are pure and whether they are in remembrance and fear of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Modesty is a value that is really depleting in an era where people are obsessed with how they look and they find a desperate need to display themselves in the name of beauty and confidence, where cussing is a common habit and where people just lack a sense of shame in themselves.
Allah musta'an. May Allah help us. May we be people who are modest and may we be reminders of modesty.