Sex and Sexuality (like Sense and Sensibility, except... not).
I've been thinking lately that it must be common for men to objectify sex, because it seems as though women tend to personalize it. I've noticed that, particularly in my writing, I tend to refer to body parts using objective terms like "this, that, and those" while poor jedishampoo keeps hounding me to replace those words with "his" and said character's name. Sometimes I feel like I just want to whine, "But... but... that's just the way I think about it! What's wrong with that?" When I think of sex I think of body parts and sensations, it doesn't necessarily matter who those parts are attached to. That's just the way my mind works.
But it seems to me like women, maybe they think of the person more? Perhaps, instead of thinking like I do, they think of names and faces and the feelings that the have for the person. So I wonder, is it common for most women when they're having sex to think of the person more than the body parts? If so then you'll have to explain this to me, because I really don't understand it at all.
On a completely unrelated note, I caught my youngest son flirting with an older boy a few weeks back. It was the cutest thing ever! My tiny little 3-year-old Dustin was smiling up at a boy who was about twice his size. About six years old, I would guess. And my son got that boy to hold his sippy cup for him and sit down in his chair. I've told you guys once before, and I'll say it again: My son is gay. Or at least bisexual. But in all honesty, I've never seen him act like that around girls. He is most definitely not straight. I can tell when little boys are straight. My oldest son, Rich, was oogling the exposed chests of teenage girls at that age.
By the way, is it a terrible thing for me to be overjoyed that my son is gay? I want to shout it gleefully, MY SON IS GAY! Maybe it's just because I'm thinking to myself, "Now at least one person in my family will understand me!" Well, to the extent that anyone can understand me, anyway.
But it seems to me like women, maybe they think of the person more? Perhaps, instead of thinking like I do, they think of names and faces and the feelings that the have for the person. So I wonder, is it common for most women when they're having sex to think of the person more than the body parts? If so then you'll have to explain this to me, because I really don't understand it at all.
On a completely unrelated note, I caught my youngest son flirting with an older boy a few weeks back. It was the cutest thing ever! My tiny little 3-year-old Dustin was smiling up at a boy who was about twice his size. About six years old, I would guess. And my son got that boy to hold his sippy cup for him and sit down in his chair. I've told you guys once before, and I'll say it again: My son is gay. Or at least bisexual. But in all honesty, I've never seen him act like that around girls. He is most definitely not straight. I can tell when little boys are straight. My oldest son, Rich, was oogling the exposed chests of teenage girls at that age.
By the way, is it a terrible thing for me to be overjoyed that my son is gay? I want to shout it gleefully, MY SON IS GAY! Maybe it's just because I'm thinking to myself, "Now at least one person in my family will understand me!" Well, to the extent that anyone can understand me, anyway.