Slap your daughters (tfcm)
Seriously. The next time your precious little princess throws a tantrum or demands something, gets in trouble and wants you to bail her out, instead of indulging her or allowing her to get away with such wretched behaviour, Slap her. Or lock her in her room. Make her face the consequences of her actions. Ground her, Punish her, send her to a nunnery. I don't care. But for goodness sakes, Train your daughters that they are not the center of the universe! The rules of the world apply to them too, no matter how much Mommy and Daddy adore them, no matter how pretty or cute or smart or perfect they think they are. The most important thing is that they are human beings, responsible for their actions and for dealing with the consequences of those actions, just like the rest of us.
As some of you know, I work in a convenience store. Not a glamorous job, but it pays for toilet paper and diapers until I finish college. I am SICK, SICK, SICK, of Daddy's Little Princess coming into the store and thinking it's OKAY for her to cuss me and my coworkers out because we refused a sale because
A.) She doesn't have the ID to prove she's old enough, as state law requires,
B.) She's not old enough to buy it, and has the ID to prove it, but assumes we're not actually going to check the date when we ask for it, or
C.) Not all of her little gaggle of Precious Princesses are old enough to purchase, and if one person ina party isn't old enough, state law prohibits me from selling to any of them because they may be providing to a minor.
D.) She already appears to be over the legal limit, and I have the right to refuse the sale.
When I run into these problems with guys, they may act like jerks, but I don't know, maybe becasue it's the South, They rarely cuss at me. I've only been cussed at by guys in this situation twice, and once he was a Drunk and I refused a sale They just take it in stride, might get an attitude about the "stupid Rules" or "Stupid Store" even if I"ve sold to them before when they had their ID, and just don't recall them this time.
But the girls. Dear God Ladies, these Girls. These could be your daughters, little sisters, nieces, cousins, babysitters. They turn from Precious Princess to Stone Cold BITCH in a second. I got cussed out by a set of sorority girls because they didn't all have their ID's and I refused the sale. Up one side and down the other, and thank goodness I kept back the tears till they left the store. If I hadn't, I might have gone over the counter and hit one of them, because when I'm mad I either cry or throw things, occasionally skinny spoiled little witches. Or I could, someday, if they get in my way. Yes, I'm known as the ID Nazi at work. There is a reason for this. Sorry, no one's Tobacco, Alcohol, or Lottery is worth my Job, Money (600 dollar fine), or time in Jail.
I've tried to explain, nicely (and I'm the queen of Nice, Corporate gets letters about how nice I am), I may have sold to you when you had your ID yesterday, but I see over a thousand people a day and I don't remember you well enough to say if I sold to you or someone who looks like you.
Tonight I got cussed out by a girl, whom my manager said does come in and is old enough but will be banned from the store, who wanted cigar wraps. The only reason people buy them for is an illegal one, but we sell them none the less. She looked familiar, but had no ID. Said she'd go get her boyfriend. I told her, He can't buy them for you because that's providing to a possible Minor. She threw a fit, "Well that's a stupid f-ing rule, blah blah blah, F--K YOU!" I'd walked out to her car as she tried to make him get out to tell her, save him the trip, He was fine with it. Meanwhile across the parking lot some other girls were getting a free ride in a police car and cussing at the cops. My manager had refused them a beer sale earlier, then hid the keys they left on the counter and called the police. Why they thought that they could get away with any of it, the drinking, drunk driving, or cussing, I don't understand.
But I digress. The point is, the more I think on this, that it goes back to Parents Abdicating the job of parenting and spoiling their kids too much, especially girls. Why do I ONLY see this behavior in Girls? At least 75% of the girls under say, 23, my age, who have issues and are refused sales act like this. It's not signalling them out, it's doing my job. I refuse at least as many, if not more guys, normally for invalid ID (worn out, in multiple pieces, can't make out the dates or pictures), and they don't act like this. They sort of "ah Man" and go on their way. If they can get the sale elsewhere, they'll go. But the girls act like how dare ANYONE refuse to let them have what they want! Who do I think I am, doing my job! They act like little spoiled brats. What is the deal with this? Did I miss the memo when this became an okay way to behave? If so, what do I have to do to get that removed and corrected?
Ladies, please make sure your daughters know this is NOT acceptable behavior. Teach them to treat all human beings with Respect, and that the little guys who work crap jobs like Wal-Mart, fast food, and Gas Stations, are people too. Teach your daughters to act, if not like ladies, at least like HUMANS, not spoiled brats. I know not all kids who are raised right turn out that way, but there is a definite trend here. I don't know if it's the Springer effect, or just the way the worlds going to pot, but it needs to stop, and the best place to stop it is before it starts. Before the whining becomes ingrained and the lack of belief that they can't have what they want leads to temper tantrums, in public mind you, of monumental proportions. It is not classy, amusing, or to be tolerated.
In closing ladies, I implore you, if the time comes, Slap your daughters. Slap them hard, and really mean it. You don't know what a favor you'll be doing them.
*NOTE*
For those who mistakenly think I'm condoning violence against kids, well, you're wrong. It's a figurative slap, as in making them understand, getting through to them about why this is wrong, in any way possible, though some of them might not respond otherwise. I rather thought that was clear from my writing style, but apparently not. For the moms who think that a physical slap might be the way to get through to your kids, hey, when my son tried to climb on the oven door yesterday, he got his diaper smacked. In the end, it's your choice how to raise and get messages through to your kids.There is a difference between physical discipline and abuse, and I know it. Time outs don't always make an impact on a 16 month old, but at least my my son isn't going near the stove anytime soon. Sometimes the same is true for older kids. I've only got 19 nieces and nephews including all the steps, some ranging from 22 down to almost four, and that's just my husbands side. I've observed a lot of different kids, in other words. The same things don't work on them all.
Who knows, maybe there are kids so stubborn out there that this is the only thing that will get through to them. I'd prefer it be a verbal reprimand or examples of how to act, but in the end, it's your choice. As for being Judgmental, when it's 75% of the girls in this situation who act like this, I doubt they all have abuse or emotional issues that make them think it's okay. I have abuse and emotional issues in my past, and I don't act like this. Hell, I have morning sickness that makes me feel like curling up into a ball and dying instead of talking to these girls, but I'm still nice, and not just because it's my job but because it's the right thing to do. Treating people with respect, no matter what, is the right thing to do. That's what these girls need to learn
So, no, don't slap your daughters. Sorry that some of ya'll thought I was serious about that, I'll work on my wording. But give them a verbal Kick in the Butt about how to act and how not to act. Also, this specifically is about the girls who get attitudes when they don't get there way. A lot of kids act like brats from time to time. The girls whom I deny sales to, and whom 75% of get attitudes. If you think I'm out of line, maybe you should examine yourself for "Princess" Behavior. And I use the word Princess cause the girl from the other night had "Daddy's Princess" on the front windshield of her car.
As some of you know, I work in a convenience store. Not a glamorous job, but it pays for toilet paper and diapers until I finish college. I am SICK, SICK, SICK, of Daddy's Little Princess coming into the store and thinking it's OKAY for her to cuss me and my coworkers out because we refused a sale because
A.) She doesn't have the ID to prove she's old enough, as state law requires,
B.) She's not old enough to buy it, and has the ID to prove it, but assumes we're not actually going to check the date when we ask for it, or
C.) Not all of her little gaggle of Precious Princesses are old enough to purchase, and if one person ina party isn't old enough, state law prohibits me from selling to any of them because they may be providing to a minor.
D.) She already appears to be over the legal limit, and I have the right to refuse the sale.
When I run into these problems with guys, they may act like jerks, but I don't know, maybe becasue it's the South, They rarely cuss at me. I've only been cussed at by guys in this situation twice, and once he was a Drunk and I refused a sale They just take it in stride, might get an attitude about the "stupid Rules" or "Stupid Store" even if I"ve sold to them before when they had their ID, and just don't recall them this time.
But the girls. Dear God Ladies, these Girls. These could be your daughters, little sisters, nieces, cousins, babysitters. They turn from Precious Princess to Stone Cold BITCH in a second. I got cussed out by a set of sorority girls because they didn't all have their ID's and I refused the sale. Up one side and down the other, and thank goodness I kept back the tears till they left the store. If I hadn't, I might have gone over the counter and hit one of them, because when I'm mad I either cry or throw things, occasionally skinny spoiled little witches. Or I could, someday, if they get in my way. Yes, I'm known as the ID Nazi at work. There is a reason for this. Sorry, no one's Tobacco, Alcohol, or Lottery is worth my Job, Money (600 dollar fine), or time in Jail.
I've tried to explain, nicely (and I'm the queen of Nice, Corporate gets letters about how nice I am), I may have sold to you when you had your ID yesterday, but I see over a thousand people a day and I don't remember you well enough to say if I sold to you or someone who looks like you.
Tonight I got cussed out by a girl, whom my manager said does come in and is old enough but will be banned from the store, who wanted cigar wraps. The only reason people buy them for is an illegal one, but we sell them none the less. She looked familiar, but had no ID. Said she'd go get her boyfriend. I told her, He can't buy them for you because that's providing to a possible Minor. She threw a fit, "Well that's a stupid f-ing rule, blah blah blah, F--K YOU!" I'd walked out to her car as she tried to make him get out to tell her, save him the trip, He was fine with it. Meanwhile across the parking lot some other girls were getting a free ride in a police car and cussing at the cops. My manager had refused them a beer sale earlier, then hid the keys they left on the counter and called the police. Why they thought that they could get away with any of it, the drinking, drunk driving, or cussing, I don't understand.
But I digress. The point is, the more I think on this, that it goes back to Parents Abdicating the job of parenting and spoiling their kids too much, especially girls. Why do I ONLY see this behavior in Girls? At least 75% of the girls under say, 23, my age, who have issues and are refused sales act like this. It's not signalling them out, it's doing my job. I refuse at least as many, if not more guys, normally for invalid ID (worn out, in multiple pieces, can't make out the dates or pictures), and they don't act like this. They sort of "ah Man" and go on their way. If they can get the sale elsewhere, they'll go. But the girls act like how dare ANYONE refuse to let them have what they want! Who do I think I am, doing my job! They act like little spoiled brats. What is the deal with this? Did I miss the memo when this became an okay way to behave? If so, what do I have to do to get that removed and corrected?
Ladies, please make sure your daughters know this is NOT acceptable behavior. Teach them to treat all human beings with Respect, and that the little guys who work crap jobs like Wal-Mart, fast food, and Gas Stations, are people too. Teach your daughters to act, if not like ladies, at least like HUMANS, not spoiled brats. I know not all kids who are raised right turn out that way, but there is a definite trend here. I don't know if it's the Springer effect, or just the way the worlds going to pot, but it needs to stop, and the best place to stop it is before it starts. Before the whining becomes ingrained and the lack of belief that they can't have what they want leads to temper tantrums, in public mind you, of monumental proportions. It is not classy, amusing, or to be tolerated.
In closing ladies, I implore you, if the time comes, Slap your daughters. Slap them hard, and really mean it. You don't know what a favor you'll be doing them.
*NOTE*
For those who mistakenly think I'm condoning violence against kids, well, you're wrong. It's a figurative slap, as in making them understand, getting through to them about why this is wrong, in any way possible, though some of them might not respond otherwise. I rather thought that was clear from my writing style, but apparently not. For the moms who think that a physical slap might be the way to get through to your kids, hey, when my son tried to climb on the oven door yesterday, he got his diaper smacked. In the end, it's your choice how to raise and get messages through to your kids.There is a difference between physical discipline and abuse, and I know it. Time outs don't always make an impact on a 16 month old, but at least my my son isn't going near the stove anytime soon. Sometimes the same is true for older kids. I've only got 19 nieces and nephews including all the steps, some ranging from 22 down to almost four, and that's just my husbands side. I've observed a lot of different kids, in other words. The same things don't work on them all.
Who knows, maybe there are kids so stubborn out there that this is the only thing that will get through to them. I'd prefer it be a verbal reprimand or examples of how to act, but in the end, it's your choice. As for being Judgmental, when it's 75% of the girls in this situation who act like this, I doubt they all have abuse or emotional issues that make them think it's okay. I have abuse and emotional issues in my past, and I don't act like this. Hell, I have morning sickness that makes me feel like curling up into a ball and dying instead of talking to these girls, but I'm still nice, and not just because it's my job but because it's the right thing to do. Treating people with respect, no matter what, is the right thing to do. That's what these girls need to learn
So, no, don't slap your daughters. Sorry that some of ya'll thought I was serious about that, I'll work on my wording. But give them a verbal Kick in the Butt about how to act and how not to act. Also, this specifically is about the girls who get attitudes when they don't get there way. A lot of kids act like brats from time to time. The girls whom I deny sales to, and whom 75% of get attitudes. If you think I'm out of line, maybe you should examine yourself for "Princess" Behavior. And I use the word Princess cause the girl from the other night had "Daddy's Princess" on the front windshield of her car.