Hello 40
Well Friends & Fans Hello!
Once again I seem to have taken a respite from LJ, but not really on purpose. A LOT has changed in my world in the last few months. Here is a quick rundown, just in case any of you have wondered where I've been.
December 2010 is when it all started...
New job is rocking along, loving life. Christmas was wonderful. Paul's kids were here in Texas with us. I turned 40 and had several parties. All of them fun and I did manage to get some fabulous gifts. Paul goes to take the kids back to home to Virginia and the shit hits the fan.
We have know forever that his kids didn't like living with their mother out in rural Virginia is a run down trailer on a piece of land in the sticks. There had been a few issues of abuse & neglect, but nothing "bad" enough. Social services there didn't do much of anything the few times Paul actually got them involved. When the kids were here for 6 weeks last summer, they cried and cried and cried when it was time to go home.
So Christmas rolls around and it is our year to have them. As stated above things were great. Paul was literally at the meeting point to set the kids back home with their mother when his daughter C get almost histerical. Paul told her that she needed to calm down and let him know why she is SO upset. That is when she told Paul of some "mild" sexual abuse from her step-father, who name is Guy, and that she was very afraid to go back because she was sure that he would try to r@pe her. Needless to say we didn't expect for that to happen.
Paul called me, and since I couldn't do much being at home in Texas, I told him to call the Police. Which he did. Long story short, Paul was given custody of the kids awaiting a more formal hearing. So instead of coming right back home Paul had to stay in Virginia an extra 2 weeks.
He now has primary custody of both kids. There are all kids of rules in the new custody agreement. Things like Guy can NEVER EVER have contact with either child again. Oh, I don't think I mentioned that Ann, the kids mom, doesn't believe her daughter. She thinks she is making it all up and it is teenage agnst. Give me a break. You will just havet to trust me on this one, when I tell you there is no way C is/was making this stuff up. So because their mom thinks they are just little liers, they are with us.
I have never been one who wanted to get married or have children. So now at 40; I find myself damn near married and have 2 kids. I don't want to give the impression that I am engaged or planning to get married, but you get the idea. Let me just tell you it has been crazy.
The kids have been here since mid January. Enrolled in school, making friends, and basically doing really well. We are a bit cramped as Paul and I has just renewed the lease on this townhome before all this happend. Thankfully it is a 2 bed 2 bath. The kids are sharing a room, but compared to the trailer they were in, this is like the Ritz to them. We have thougth about breaking the lease and getting something bigger, but quite frankly I don't have the time to put into finding a new place right now.
It seems that we have all come to terms with the fact that we are going to stay here untill our lease is up and then get a house. Good Lord willing and the creek don't rise.
But you see this is where my dilema kicks in. I don't really want to get married, but...
After a certain amount of time I guess we will be married by common law anyway.
AND
I didn't really mind that Paul and I have been "living in sin" when it was just us. But now all my christian upbring is beginning to make me think that we can't go on this way with his kids now with us full time. I know that sounds a little bit strange, but hey it is what it is. Paul has always wanted to get married. I've always been the one to say thanks, but no thanks. I guess time will tell.
There has been a little more drama but the details would bore you and I'm sure if anyone really cares to, you can read between the lines and guess at the rest. The only other thing I will mention now is that 40 is fabulous! Life changes and all I am having a blast. I have decided that this 40th year is a year of celebration. Every month I do something to celebrate. I've got several mini vacations planned and I'm thinking maybe one more tattoo!
Hope life is treating you all well. It my plan to start catching up on all of your lives ASAP. However that too will have to wait until at least later today. As it is now late or early and I must get some sleep.
OH one last thing. I don't know if I journaled this before. I broke my middle finger on my right hand back in November. Not only did I break it but the tendon snapped too. Although the cast is gone my typing is sometimes a little off so please excuse my typos. It is too late and I am too tired to read through this again and/or spell check.
Once again I seem to have taken a respite from LJ, but not really on purpose. A LOT has changed in my world in the last few months. Here is a quick rundown, just in case any of you have wondered where I've been.
December 2010 is when it all started...
New job is rocking along, loving life. Christmas was wonderful. Paul's kids were here in Texas with us. I turned 40 and had several parties. All of them fun and I did manage to get some fabulous gifts. Paul goes to take the kids back to home to Virginia and the shit hits the fan.
We have know forever that his kids didn't like living with their mother out in rural Virginia is a run down trailer on a piece of land in the sticks. There had been a few issues of abuse & neglect, but nothing "bad" enough. Social services there didn't do much of anything the few times Paul actually got them involved. When the kids were here for 6 weeks last summer, they cried and cried and cried when it was time to go home.
So Christmas rolls around and it is our year to have them. As stated above things were great. Paul was literally at the meeting point to set the kids back home with their mother when his daughter C get almost histerical. Paul told her that she needed to calm down and let him know why she is SO upset. That is when she told Paul of some "mild" sexual abuse from her step-father, who name is Guy, and that she was very afraid to go back because she was sure that he would try to r@pe her. Needless to say we didn't expect for that to happen.
Paul called me, and since I couldn't do much being at home in Texas, I told him to call the Police. Which he did. Long story short, Paul was given custody of the kids awaiting a more formal hearing. So instead of coming right back home Paul had to stay in Virginia an extra 2 weeks.
He now has primary custody of both kids. There are all kids of rules in the new custody agreement. Things like Guy can NEVER EVER have contact with either child again. Oh, I don't think I mentioned that Ann, the kids mom, doesn't believe her daughter. She thinks she is making it all up and it is teenage agnst. Give me a break. You will just havet to trust me on this one, when I tell you there is no way C is/was making this stuff up. So because their mom thinks they are just little liers, they are with us.
I have never been one who wanted to get married or have children. So now at 40; I find myself damn near married and have 2 kids. I don't want to give the impression that I am engaged or planning to get married, but you get the idea. Let me just tell you it has been crazy.
The kids have been here since mid January. Enrolled in school, making friends, and basically doing really well. We are a bit cramped as Paul and I has just renewed the lease on this townhome before all this happend. Thankfully it is a 2 bed 2 bath. The kids are sharing a room, but compared to the trailer they were in, this is like the Ritz to them. We have thougth about breaking the lease and getting something bigger, but quite frankly I don't have the time to put into finding a new place right now.
It seems that we have all come to terms with the fact that we are going to stay here untill our lease is up and then get a house. Good Lord willing and the creek don't rise.
But you see this is where my dilema kicks in. I don't really want to get married, but...
After a certain amount of time I guess we will be married by common law anyway.
AND
I didn't really mind that Paul and I have been "living in sin" when it was just us. But now all my christian upbring is beginning to make me think that we can't go on this way with his kids now with us full time. I know that sounds a little bit strange, but hey it is what it is. Paul has always wanted to get married. I've always been the one to say thanks, but no thanks. I guess time will tell.
There has been a little more drama but the details would bore you and I'm sure if anyone really cares to, you can read between the lines and guess at the rest. The only other thing I will mention now is that 40 is fabulous! Life changes and all I am having a blast. I have decided that this 40th year is a year of celebration. Every month I do something to celebrate. I've got several mini vacations planned and I'm thinking maybe one more tattoo!
Hope life is treating you all well. It my plan to start catching up on all of your lives ASAP. However that too will have to wait until at least later today. As it is now late or early and I must get some sleep.
OH one last thing. I don't know if I journaled this before. I broke my middle finger on my right hand back in November. Not only did I break it but the tendon snapped too. Although the cast is gone my typing is sometimes a little off so please excuse my typos. It is too late and I am too tired to read through this again and/or spell check.