My Personality
so i took the bait and filled out that monstrous free personality profile at eharmony.com and here are the results...
You show self-control in most things you do; you are not an extremist. Others may see you as stable, mature and steadfast.
Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
You are somewhat reserved in meeting new people. As a result, you could benefit from more assertive people doing the appropriate introductions to new people.
In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
You may be less talkative than some others, but people will generally know how you are feeling by observing many nonverbal cues.
In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
You tend to be a good listener. Others may seek you out to share a thought or concern because of your empathic listening style.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."
Patiently draw out personal interests.
Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
Find areas of common interest and involvement.
Use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
Show patience, especially when drawing out information.
Move casually, informally.
Use a logical and unemotional approach.
Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You are good at considering information from all sides of an issue before making a decision.
You are good at helping others people reach their goals.
You tend to be an objective decision-maker, preferring not to let undue emotions bias your decisions.
You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
You are generally very patient with people.
You are very supportive of other people.
You are excellent at listening to the concerns and ideas of others.
You are very sincere in actions and words.
You are a dependable and caring partner.
You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
Status quo.
Recognition for your loyalty.
A feeling of security.
No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
Time and opportunity to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
Sound relationships which form naturally, and are not contriving or scheming.
Activities that may involve friends.
Scheduled activities with no haphazard or unplanned activity.
Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.
Security for now, and in the future.
... OK so I have to admit that all of this emotional self-discovery may seem a little homo, but I think it's very helpful and anyone who reads this should give it a shot.
Any comments?
You show self-control in most things you do; you are not an extremist. Others may see you as stable, mature and steadfast.
Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
You are somewhat reserved in meeting new people. As a result, you could benefit from more assertive people doing the appropriate introductions to new people.
In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
You may be less talkative than some others, but people will generally know how you are feeling by observing many nonverbal cues.
In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
You tend to be a good listener. Others may seek you out to share a thought or concern because of your empathic listening style.
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
Start with a personal comment to "break the ice."
Patiently draw out personal interests.
Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
Find areas of common interest and involvement.
Use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
Show patience, especially when drawing out information.
Move casually, informally.
Use a logical and unemotional approach.
Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
You are good at considering information from all sides of an issue before making a decision.
You are good at helping others people reach their goals.
You tend to be an objective decision-maker, preferring not to let undue emotions bias your decisions.
You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
You are generally very patient with people.
You are very supportive of other people.
You are excellent at listening to the concerns and ideas of others.
You are very sincere in actions and words.
You are a dependable and caring partner.
You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
Status quo.
Recognition for your loyalty.
A feeling of security.
No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
Time and opportunity to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
Sound relationships which form naturally, and are not contriving or scheming.
Activities that may involve friends.
Scheduled activities with no haphazard or unplanned activity.
Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions.
Security for now, and in the future.
... OK so I have to admit that all of this emotional self-discovery may seem a little homo, but I think it's very helpful and anyone who reads this should give it a shot.
Any comments?