Timing
I have been learning so many interesting things at physical therapy. One thing that I have learned is that there is a set of muscles in the neck that, when they become too tense, put pressure on some nerve/blood vessel combination that, in turn, creates extremely intense nausea. (This is not the point of this post, but necessary to understand the point)
I got to experience this first hand when some new pt exercises had unexpected results. At some point as I dragged myself through the mounting nausea, I came to the foggy realization, that even with my irritable bowels syndrome, this was the worst nausea that I had ever experienced. I stubbornly finished my errands, staggered home, and fell into bed. (This too, is not the point of this post, but also necessary to understand the point)
While falling into an uncomfortable half-sleep, I thought to myself that if I didn't feel better when I woke up, I might call delosd and see if he would come over. Just having him nearby makes me feel better.
I woke up with two realizations. 1) my nausea was not better 2) my phone was ringing
It was delosd on the phone, telling me that he was standing outside of my front door. When I staggered down stairs, I found him standing there with a dozen roses.
There are many aspects of our relationship that are very happy and very healthy. We are good to each other and for each other and support each other in many ways, like in this example. They are very sane and intentional. But one of the things that seems more like luck than intention is the amazingly good timing we have had with each other. This is not the first, nor one of only a few, example of seemingly impossible to predict perfect timing that we have had.
To his credit, I had a difficult day the day before, and he was surprising me because he thought it might be nice after the day I had previously. Consistent good timing doesn't just happen by chance. It requires an in depth and complex understanding of the situation, a willingness to take initiative when opportunities arise, enough margin to be able to back up that initiative, the confidence to do this all smoothly. It is a very tall order. But when it works...
Wow.
I got to experience this first hand when some new pt exercises had unexpected results. At some point as I dragged myself through the mounting nausea, I came to the foggy realization, that even with my irritable bowels syndrome, this was the worst nausea that I had ever experienced. I stubbornly finished my errands, staggered home, and fell into bed. (This too, is not the point of this post, but also necessary to understand the point)
While falling into an uncomfortable half-sleep, I thought to myself that if I didn't feel better when I woke up, I might call delosd and see if he would come over. Just having him nearby makes me feel better.
I woke up with two realizations. 1) my nausea was not better 2) my phone was ringing
It was delosd on the phone, telling me that he was standing outside of my front door. When I staggered down stairs, I found him standing there with a dozen roses.
There are many aspects of our relationship that are very happy and very healthy. We are good to each other and for each other and support each other in many ways, like in this example. They are very sane and intentional. But one of the things that seems more like luck than intention is the amazingly good timing we have had with each other. This is not the first, nor one of only a few, example of seemingly impossible to predict perfect timing that we have had.
To his credit, I had a difficult day the day before, and he was surprising me because he thought it might be nice after the day I had previously. Consistent good timing doesn't just happen by chance. It requires an in depth and complex understanding of the situation, a willingness to take initiative when opportunities arise, enough margin to be able to back up that initiative, the confidence to do this all smoothly. It is a very tall order. But when it works...
Wow.