Just a quote that's been in mind lately...
"...Everything that happens in your life - every single thing - leaves a scar. A permanent scar. You're not supposed to get over it. To get over something - to erase the mark it left on you - erases part of who you are . . . Scars are the key to power . . . Scars are the map of beauty . . . Each of us is the sum of our scars." - Deliann/Kris Hansen, Blade of Tyshall by Matthew Woodring Stover