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so this is something i've dealt with for a long time. since i was little:
I think i'm getting along with someone, we're joking around teasing laughing and i either take it too far or misread things or just... I dont know. But I think we're joking and they think i'm an asshole, or inappropriate, or rude, or they decide that whatever I have done to offend means that I hate them. Then one of a few things happen:
They get mad at me and start being mean to me right then and there.
They get mad at me and bottle it up and I don't find out until they tell someone who tells someone who tells me.
They get frustrated with me and apologize for me to other people.
Now, none of these things are okay and after a certain age, the first stopped happening very often. The last, not so much either. But the middle one...alot more often then i'd like.
I think i'm a good person, a kind person, and i generally like peopl unless they give me a good reason not to. I joke around. Alot. But I'm not one to bullshit, and I won't pretend to like someone if I dont. If I don't like them I won't beat around the bush with backhanded comments.
I just hate that this keeps happening and people keep thinking I'm a bad, mean person. I dont want people to think i'm cold, or that i snap at them or whatever they think, especially if I think we're kidding.
It happens too often. I don't want to change who I am but I don't want to hurt peoples feelings so often, and I don't want people to think I'm a bad person. I don't think I am.
I think i'm getting along with someone, we're joking around teasing laughing and i either take it too far or misread things or just... I dont know. But I think we're joking and they think i'm an asshole, or inappropriate, or rude, or they decide that whatever I have done to offend means that I hate them. Then one of a few things happen:
They get mad at me and start being mean to me right then and there.
They get mad at me and bottle it up and I don't find out until they tell someone who tells someone who tells me.
They get frustrated with me and apologize for me to other people.
Now, none of these things are okay and after a certain age, the first stopped happening very often. The last, not so much either. But the middle one...alot more often then i'd like.
I think i'm a good person, a kind person, and i generally like peopl unless they give me a good reason not to. I joke around. Alot. But I'm not one to bullshit, and I won't pretend to like someone if I dont. If I don't like them I won't beat around the bush with backhanded comments.
I just hate that this keeps happening and people keep thinking I'm a bad, mean person. I dont want people to think i'm cold, or that i snap at them or whatever they think, especially if I think we're kidding.
It happens too often. I don't want to change who I am but I don't want to hurt peoples feelings so often, and I don't want people to think I'm a bad person. I don't think I am.