Cliques are inevitable micro-collections of people who like the look and sound of each other. Culture is the foundational broad strokes of beliefs, values, and goals in a group of people, and a healthy culture is inclusive. It seeks out new members who evolve the culture into something new and better.
rands, on dealing with
toxic people and
indefensible has this to say:
In broad terms, there are about four things in the world to talk about.
people < things < events < ideas
Spend less time with people who talk about people and things, and more time with people who talk about events and ideas.
There, I just saved you 10 years of sifting through bullshit friends.
EDIT: yesterday's
qwantz pretty much had this conversation for us already. good job, ryan :V