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thanenerakus

Love life update - READ ME!!!

Nov 29, 2006 05:57

Okay - Ashley and I didn't work, primarily because all she did was use me. I made the decision that I wouldn't hide behind a rock this time...I figured if I was going to grow up, I'd finish the process and learn to deal with it. So I did. I fumed for a week or two, cooled down, and joined a singles sight. So far, so good ( Read more... )

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webelaffin November 29 2006, 15:23:24 UTC

A hug is a good start....depending on why she wanted it. Did she just want to feel you against her? Did she ask for a hug, instead of a kiss, because you're teddy-bearish, and she 'just wants you as a friend'? OR did she ask for a hug instead of a kiss because she's a good girl, and a slow mover? My reference point: I work in a large group of twenty-something hottie single ladies. With THESE ladies, it's not uncommon to 'do the deed' on the first date, and ask for personal data later. With this group, a hug is nothing.

It really all depends on what kind of girl she is, and what a hug means to her. Only you and she can figure that out. I'm as useless as ever.........sorry!

Hope you're not stopping at just one person to chat with. Play the field while you can. Chatting with only one person while you're single is like buying one egg at a time!

Besides.....Aren't you way overdue to git-r-done???

mistress_frisky November 30 2006, 13:26:38 UTC

One thing to remember about the women Mom has referenced above - these are typically women who have gone to college and had some early success in a career, i.e. very confident women. Most women are not this way, so don't let that assessment bother you. I do agree with Mom on the other point though, and that there's no way to tell because we don't know a thing about her. What is she like? What kind of history does she have (moved around, college, trauma, stable family, etc)?

On a side note - YAY JOSH!! He's tapped into the Puckett in him!

thanenerakus November 30 2006, 21:09:04 UTC

Here's what I can tell you about her history. Her last boyfriend was a complete ass who played head games, and she wants nothing to do with him. Doesn't even pick up when he calls and doesn't tolerate him when he comes around. Spent her years growing up in foster care. She's 18. Not much, but it's what I've got to work with.

mistress_frisky December 1 2006, 17:35:39 UTC

Yeah, with that kind of background, I wouldn't expect to find an 18 year old who is confident enough to make a real first move. I agree with Carrie below, the hug was a good sign.

YAY!

Sounds good madreluna December 1 2006, 12:22:25 UTC

Next time ask for a goodnight kiss. A girl asking for a hug means I'm into you, but as a girl I can't be forward enough to kiss you. Now if you tried to say goodnight and satrted things with her and got a loose hug...that's I'm not so sure, but she initiates and gives a good hug...that's kiss me next time you fool!!!!