Nov 07, 2006 10:33
It's okay to "date" more than one person at once.
When the realm of kissing is entered, it's very thin ice. I think dating is basically just getting to know different people. It's not so different from going for coffee with a friend. Kiss + intensity of kissing = time to make a decision. I can't see the moral justification of going out with 2 people and kissing both of them. This means sex is definitely out of the question when you're casually dating.
I've learned a LOT in the last 6 months. For me, sex is a promise. Once you have sex with someone, it is not okay to be having sex with anyone else. As Cora said, keep OUT of the bedroom.
I think the turning point is the goodnight kiss. That's when the decision has to be made. There is something to be said for not so much keeping options open, but for getting to know people in general, and not closing your mind to new opportunities. But polygamous dating can get tricky and complicated.
Obviously, whatever floats your boat. Different things and situations work for different people.
I have never casually dated. It's an interesting concept.