So Long Kim
I recently had to drop a buddy I had on youtube for having lousy communication. You guys know I hate it when people have poor communication skills. It is the first and most important thing in any relationship. If you have no communication you have no relationship be it friend, romance or business. So I would email this girl and she would only reply once but never to my second response. This started around 2017 though I think I'd been commenting to her on youtube even before that. Fellow Floridian I watched her because she used to post videos about boating, snorkeling and nature. So here is the first email and from the start it begins to fall apart.
From: kimmie
To: Des
Sent: Friday, July 21, 2017 9:03 PM
Subject: Re: Thagirion from Youtube
Hello there Des!
Kimmie here. So good to hear from you! I'm glad you wrote. It's hard to talk super open on youtube isn't it. Lol! Nice to formally Youtube meet you! Lol!
Yes you surprised me when you mentioned the Atari. I thought you were like 27 yrs old or so. I just assumed... I've seen your hands before on video. You must be doing something right. They look young. Hahaha! Happy Birthday!!! I hope you had a spectacular Birthday. I didn't think you were in your 40's too. I'm 43. Sounds like we are pretty close to the same age.
That trip sounds like a lot of fun. The perfect get away! Eclipse's are amazing! Is Chris your Boyfriend? Husband? Or a Brother, friend, nephew, neighbor? Hahaha! I wasn't sure. I didn't want to assume if it was or, wasn't a romantic trip. Hahaha! Seeing the wild horses will be amazing! I would love that too. Bison a super cool. It's so funny when I catch one out of the corner of my eye while I'm driving it trips me out for a second. I'm like... That wasn't a cow. Was that a cow? That definitely wasn't a cow... Hahahaha!
Yes If we ever get the chance we should absolutely meet up. We are up by Sarasota part of the time. Maybe we can on one of those trips to the house there. That would be fun. I'll go check out your video of the new goodies for your trip. Sorry I have been so behind. We have a few construction projects going on right now so it's been crazy for us here. I'm very sorry for the late response.
Hope you are doing fantastic! Happy Happy Happy Birthday to you!!! Say safe & happy & have a super fun trip!
Kimmie
I replied to this then she vanished. Also why hasn't she been listening to my videos. She watches me and I say MANY times Chris is my husband.
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Nov 5 2017 wrote her since there was a hurricane. She gave me some info she was ok and about houses etc. Well I replied and again Dead no response.
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2018 told her about my surgery. She never replied. Inconsiderate right there.
Wrote her again July 2018. Got this reply finally.
From: kimmie
To: Des
Sent: Saturday, July 28, 2018 8:31 AM
Subject: Re: Hi, long time no hear
Awww! I’m so sorry about your little birdie. Is her name Bullet? That name popped in my head when you mentioned her. I hope she has a hood long life too. Poor Lil thing. Life is tough enough when you’re that tiny.
I’m a billion times Marty sorry that you had to have more surgeries. Geeeze! I hope they got it fixed this time. Do they think they missed one or is this going to be a recurring thing? I sure hope not. Just taking a day out of life for serious stuff gets tiring & stressful. Big healing hugs to you my sweet friend. I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I hope your energy gets back to normal ASAP.
Goodness is Life interrupting me again..
I’ll be back ASAP. Sending this short one because last time I wrote you I got interrupted & I never sent it.. More to come..
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I responded to this and again she rudely just disappeared on me. More empty promises. ASAP is a flat out lie as you'll see later on. Well I never got that or the "more to come."
2019
Sent her TWO email because Bullet had died. Got this reply finally.
From: kimmie
To: Des
Sent: Friday, April 5, 2019 11:12 PM
Subject: Re: Sending again
Hey Des how are you?
how’s your new little birdie doing? Has it relaxed yet? I hope it’s gotten more friendly. They’re sweet little things.
I’m sorry you’ve had health problems. I hope you’re feeling better. & is love to meet up. But I truly don’t know my schedule. Bart & I kinda blow with the wind.. if it’s windy or busy in the keys we leave.
What did you name your new bird?
Same crap. I reply to this then nothing. I sent her a Christmas card. Then in Feb of this year I get this from her for a change. It was after Christmas I noticed a big change in her in her videos. She'd gotten louder and more obnoxious. Plus she'd picked up sailor mouth somewhere along the line. Clearly she'd taken to drinking because now she acted like an idiot in front of the camera. We had talked before about personality types. I'd told her mine and she told me she was an introvert too. LOAD of BS right there. Introverts aren't loud, are going out all the time and don't randomly talk to strangers. If she is then she doesn't act like it on camera. Really I don't buy it for a moment. Then in Feb of this year I get a reply from her. Actually she wrote me all on her own for the first time.
2020
On Monday, February 10, 2020, 11:53:47 AM EST, kimmiewrote:
Hey Des it’s kimmie... Bart was down checking the keys house & said I had mail... he hadn’t checked it since before Christmas I guess because I had the sweetest surprise ... A card from you! I love it! Thank you for thinking about me.... us... you must think I’m a shit.... I am so sorry I didn’t know it was in the mailbox.. i love your character tho.. very scawy! He sent me pictures of the card.... I told him to open it.. he’ll be home later...
We are in Sebring right now... How far are you guys from there? I saw hills on your address... I don’t think that is real far.... not sure what your schedule looks like in a week or so but maybe we could meet up? I’ve been wanting to meet you too...
I hope you guys are doing wonderful! So kool little birdie it talking good for you.
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Thank you for thinking about me.... us... you must think I’m a shit..
See what I mean about sailor mought? Yes I'm definitely not thinking highly of her with her garbage communication. Oh NOW she wants to get together. I thought she might be serious. Again I reply and told her where I was that I knew how to get to Sebring then again NOTHING. I usually reply to emails ON the day I get them.
Then on May 28 she had posted a youtube and I reminded her I had replied and sent her an email. She said "I'll get to you ASAP." Well two or three days went by so I replied to her on youtube this time and told her I was waiting and she hadn't replied ASAP. Well that got her attention and I get this email.
On Thursday, May 28, 2020, 8:02:54 PM EDT, kimmie wrote:
Hi Des...
I haven’t been back in touch with you because I am going through a lot.... Our dog Max just died... his sister quit eating... the whole house is in a depression... So I am sorry I didn’t get back to you.... but in case you didn’t notice... There’s also been a Quarantine... So no I don’t really have time to invest heavily in friendships right night now... I’m honestly just trying not to break down & cry every 5 minutes..... So it’s not my intention to be rude... I just frankly don’t feel like talking to anyone... hope you understand....
I don’t live in Sarasota.. I think I’ve said that a couple times.... we are finally back home here in the keys...
After Max our dog & I have been going through a 6 month battle with cancer... I'm exhausted... I'm depressed... so I’ll be back & when I can... feel free to write me here or on YouTube but please don’t “call me out” in my comments section like you did... for not being in touch.... I have a life beyond YouTube sometimes it’s impossible to do what everyone wants... I have to take care of my family 1st...
Kimmie
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BS, Sob story I REALLY don't care and I finally lit into her. I'd been planning to drop her anyway. Now was the time.
My reply.
I'm sorry to hear about your dog, but I lost Bullet to cancer too yet I did not put off my friends. No, I don't let the quarantine stop my life. Everyone has problems. In case YOU haven't noticed I'm struggling with two sick birds for weeks now. One will probably die. Maybe maybe not but I keep going.
"feel free to write me here or on YouTube but please don’t “call me out”"
The comments section is the ONLY place to write you on youtube now that they did away with inboxes. You've been terrible at communication since I've known you and always left me hanging. Whether things were good or bad. It didn't matter. It was time to call you out somewhere. I have a life beyond youtube too as you've seen by the small snippets I put up. Well at least I finally got an answer from you. I wouldn't say we've ever been friends. Buddies but not friends because friendship takes one key ingredient and that's communication. You have a working relationship with Bart so you understand the concept of communication well. It's the most important thing in any relationship (romance, friendship or business). So, I think it's best I end this. You haven't been there for me for the good, I can't expect you now that things are "bad" (talking about the state of the world). I will say good bye then and don't worry I won't comment on your videos anymore or contact you anymore. Please show me the same respect and do not reply then. But I think you're already good at that.
Des
It felt good to say that. The dead dog comment pissed me off and I had told her before I wasn an NT she shouldn't have tried to go for my feelings. They aren't there. Yeah Bullet also died from cancer but I didn't drop any of my friends or ignore them or disrespect my budgie by using her as a lame excuse. She has a lousy memory because if you look back at the first email in 2017 she's the one that volunteered info that she lived in Sarasota and wanted to meet me there. Heck she had long videos on building the place. She's a lousy liar.
We are up by Sarasota part of the time. Maybe we can on one of those trips to the house there.
You guys know I'm always more than happy to call people out on their stupidity. She's distzy, a liar, inconsiderate, bad friend and a loud potty mouth. I'd been planning to dump her. Glad to finally do so. Should have done it sooner than later. Don't keep people around that do this to you and that are negative all the time. They hold you back. Only keep those around you that are helpful and keep you moving forward.
And it's funny because that very day someone that does videos on boating, snorkeling and shelling added me and started talking to me. Wonderful she's already replaced the day she's punted.
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