Hey babe, don't worry. Everyone feels like this at some point! Hell, I'd be worried about people who didn't feel like this sometime in their life. (Or I'd recommend the life of a recluse, because they could obviously live with that.)
I know what you mean about being "the extra" and frankly there would be a point where I would make sure I wasn't in that position by either inviting one more person or not going. (Because sometimes the human psyche needs a little bit of love too. I'm not saying this for ever time, but the last thing some singles want to do is hang out around couples...)
And now that I think about it. Isn't it stupid that society forces us to define ourselves by our relationship status? Like I just did? You and I are singles. Other friends of ours are "couples" even though if we were sold in stores it's not like they'd come in a buy one-get one free deal. They're separate people like us.
And yes, right now they do have someone to cater to their emotional and physical needs, but they were single like us too. Just because they're in relationship and we're not does not mean their better than us. It means... that they were able to find someone quicker.
You've already said it to yourself, but I can say it too. There IS someone out there.
And so what if some people are intimidated by mohawks and piercings. That's not who you want to be with. I know that you love those things about you, you love being unique in a world where people like me are scared to do what you've already done. And all you did was cut your hair and add some decorative jewelry!
You want someone who will be just as open and creative as you. Not someone who would look down and say no just when you're in the middle of finding yourself.
I think that people are so preoccupied with what other people think and finding that other person to fulfill THEIR needs, that they forget that there is another person in that relationship who is looking for that same thing. I think that instead of finding someone else, we should find the person that is most important, the one we HAVE to live with until the day we die: US. If you don't know who you are, how is someone else going to know?
You're closer than any of us, and it's that journey that will find you people (not just one person) that will accept and love you for who you are.
(And for the record, if they don't like you for you, they're not worthy.)
awww thank you so much Monday! *hugs* I've just been feeling down these past few days, especially since my best friend and his girlfriend have been inviting me to hang out with another couple that are mutual friends, but none of the single people can hang out that day or whatever. I feel better today though, and I especially feel better after reading your comment! ^.^
Hey babe, don't worry. Everyone feels like this at some point! Hell, I'd be worried about people who didn't feel like this sometime in their life. (Or I'd recommend the life of a recluse, because they could obviously live with that.)
I know what you mean about being "the extra" and frankly there would be a point where I would make sure I wasn't in that position by either inviting one more person or not going. (Because sometimes the human psyche needs a little bit of love too. I'm not saying this for ever time, but the last thing some singles want to do is hang out around couples...)
And now that I think about it. Isn't it stupid that society forces us to define ourselves by our relationship status? Like I just did? You and I are singles. Other friends of ours are "couples" even though if we were sold in stores it's not like they'd come in a buy one-get one free deal. They're separate people like us.
And yes, right now they do have someone to cater to their emotional and physical needs, but they were single like us too. Just because they're in relationship and we're not does not mean their better than us. It means... that they were able to find someone quicker.
You've already said it to yourself, but I can say it too. There IS someone out there.
And so what if some people are intimidated by mohawks and piercings. That's not who you want to be with. I know that you love those things about you, you love being unique in a world where people like me are scared to do what you've already done. And all you did was cut your hair and add some decorative jewelry!
You want someone who will be just as open and creative as you. Not someone who would look down and say no just when you're in the middle of finding yourself.
I think that people are so preoccupied with what other people think and finding that other person to fulfill THEIR needs, that they forget that there is another person in that relationship who is looking for that same thing. I think that instead of finding someone else, we should find the person that is most important, the one we HAVE to live with until the day we die: US. If you don't know who you are, how is someone else going to know?
You're closer than any of us, and it's that journey that will find you people (not just one person) that will accept and love you for who you are.
(And for the record, if they don't like you for you, they're not worthy.)
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