Non-sticky Response Pt2
Welcome to the current Transformers Anonymous Kink Meme non-sticky response! Here's how it works: post your fills anonymously with a header in a comment box, or if you wish, post a comment with a proper header and a link to the original request and another link to the story.
Rules:
Rules:
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I...really just don't know how to phrase this.
If I hadn't already had 7,000 words on the next part addressing cultural misunderstandings and consent issues and frag knows what all, I'd have stopped writing because the wind got blown out of my sails. Why did you feel it necessary to write a review telling me that you dislike my story because of you don't share a kink? It's like the wordiest version of slut-shaming ever.
I'm not writing to make you cringe and squirm. I'm writing for people to enjoy. If you don't enjoy something on the kink meme, can't you just--not read it? This is anonymous reviewing; I wouldn't have noticed if you never read my story again. Instead you deliberately made sure I knew.
This isn't a review saying "This isn't my kink, but I love it anyway!" This was a review telling me "This was horrible, and I'm going to stop reading because it was horrible. And I'm going to tell you about how horrible I find it." I don't even care if that's not what you MEANT. It's what I saw. If this was a critique of my writing style or grammatical errors or sense of humor, I could be fine with it. But this is about a kink, and how the kink isn't shared, so you're not going to play in the sandbox anymore because of how bad the kink is.
People: read the warnings. I put the warnings up. I cannot be any clearer than that, and I refuse to ALLOW anyone to try and MAKE ME SORRY that readers make themselves keep reading something that makes them uncomfortable. I am not sorry. Even if I have to use anger at someone kink-shaming me to keep writing, I'm not sorry.
I'd rather everyone just not review from now on if this is the kind of review I get. I don't need to know about your corner. Get up and leave if you're so horrified, but don't try to make me be ashamed that you can't close a browser window.
I read through this, and I feel bad that I'm angry, but I still think it needs to be said.
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I do hope you continue writing. I for one have really been enjoying the story so far.
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I for one think you handled this quite well. Kink-shaming has no place on a kink meme. You place detailed warnings at the beginning of each group of postings and there is no one strapping the butthurt!anon down to his or her computer chair and forcing him/her to read.
That being said, I myself do not have a humiliation/embarrassment kink. I'm neutral in that regard... but I LOVED it anyway!!! Watching you build Thundercracker up and then tear him strategically down was FASCINATING as a character study. Not to mention your excellent world building, humor and characterization.
Oh, and before reading this fic, I had no idea that I had a nuzzling kink. Or a cultural misunderstanding kink. Nope... none at all. But apparently I do.
Don't let this one review take the wind out of your sails AA!!! There are so many of us who adore this fic!
[wishes she could draw to gift fan art, but offers icons or Photoshop manipulations] Bedazzled Rodimus for your thoughts?
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I think reading is awesome because you can experience things that you'd never be able to otherwise. And it's part of your story, I don't have to love every single scene to love the whole story.
Nevertheless I really loved that scene for being written awesomely.
Just so you know, I'm not here because of kinks, but because of how wonderfull your plot and characters are.
Please, keep writing! If I can do anything more to encourage you, just tell me.
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I don't really need more encouragement, thank you folks. People's reviews have been great. This review just really struck a sour chord with me because it's not really a review.
I've chosen to be pissed off instead of discouraged. I'm a little sad that I had to make that choice, however. I mean, this is the KINKMEME. Go away and let me build my sandcastle alone if you don't like my architecture.
Anyway, I'd really like to know if both my OPs are still with me? It's been a while since the last nuzzling, and I realize that the Dominant!Starscream wasn't really fragging as requested, but I haven't heard from either in a while. Anyone know?
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What I was trying to say:
OMG this fic is so amazing I kept reading even through this part that totally squicked me because it's SO FUCKING GOOD I couldn't put it down *gasp* but I really need a break now because *whimper* public flogging?! Nuuuuuuu~! so I'll be back when this part's over, k?
What everyone else read:
*SQUICKRAEGKINKSHAAAAAAAAAAAAMEFOAD~FLOUNCE~*
I thought I was making myself clear with the owning of the blame and the self-mockery that I was in no way blaming YOU for my decision to keep reading in spite of my squick, but obviously not. My intented message was never YOUR FIC MADE ME FEEL BAD AND YOU SHOULD FEEL BAD. I know you said you don't care what I meant, that's how it made you feel, so I won't bother trying to explain myself further, but I need to make that clear, because I do not and have not kinkshamed anyone. Not once did I imply that it was wrong or bad to like degredation or have it as a kink. If I knew someone who did, I would rec this fic to them in a heartbeat. (I've already recced it to two of my friends.)
But whatever. Next time I'll leave out the context and just say "You did a fantastic job at making me feel really, really bad," and hope it's taken as the compliment it was intended as, much like "this chapter ripped my heart out and stomped on it," or "this scene made me cry." Great writers are the ones that make you FEEL. No one said only good feelings were allowed.
I'm very sorry for upsetting you.
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Explanation accepted. Because the "everyone else read" thing is what I read, but the added flounce makes everything better. Your summary out of context reads entirely different than what I got from your above comment, and I know I said I don't care, but it's kind of like someone telling my inner Ho-imus Prime to get the slut out. Doesn't matter if he is a slut or not, he's still not going to feel good about it. But if he's being offered a $20 at the same time, it's all good.
Frankly, I'm just glad your response is that of a rational adult.
Now excuse me. I must continue writing. *flounces away*
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